(Closed) On conflict resolution: Do you know when to HALT?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

wow, this is so smart.  I just sent this to Mr.D, we’ll probably tend to stop at H as I too have blood sugar snappishness issues 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Wow, that’s so clever!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

The angry one is tough… should you wait until the feelings have passed to talk about something upsetting?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, I really like the idea and I’m going to show the hubby & I’m going to take it to work to show my co-workers and see if they want to use it with our kids.  Thanks for the idea!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

That sounds similar to something I have used with children in a psycho-social classroom. Basically "slow down! Stop, and think." It just teaches impulse control and though processing. I really love the HALT idea combined with that.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

My Fiance and I talk about this all the time!  We’re horrible about getting snappy when hungry or tired, so often our first solution is food!  And sleep!  Although I think "Angry" is funny, because of course that’ll start a fight.  Never thought about lonely though…good method, thanks!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Ah, that’s pretty cool.  Thanks for sharing!

Now if I could only get my cats to not get mad at me when they are hungry, angry, lonely or tired… wait, they’re never tired, they sleep 20 hours a day!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

That is really smart. I’d never heard it before, though I suppose we do both informally think about crabbiness or tiredness when we’re being snappy to each other.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Great strategies! Thanks for sharing. My Fiance and I are doing some pre-marital counseling right now and we are trying some things like this. We have been doing something like the HALT method but when the emotion of frustration emerges. I wish I could remember the technique. I think the doc gave us a handout but it’s in the car. Geez. That’s helpful, huh?! lol Maybe I should put in on the fridge.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh wow. I just realized that was a reeeeally old thread. I linked to it at the bottom of another thread where it said “related posts.”

Well, this can be interesting if anyone replies… how have those strategies worked over the longhaul?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miichelle:  Glad you dredged this one up again. I hadn’t seen it and it is very, very interesting!

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