(Closed) On inviting kids

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, invite anyone you want.

Advice on how to do that politely:

Invite your family’s kids by name on the invitation, say how many seats are indicated for that family on the invite to make it clear they’re invited.

Do not include your friend’s kids on the invites, again, say how many from their household are invited. (1 or 2) 

Don’t say anything about “no kids” to anyone, so they don’t see the problem when they get there. The only issue is if someone explicitly says “can I bring my kid” in which case you should say something about venue restrictions or something that sounds like it’s out of your hands and is *not child specific.*

Post # 5
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4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RiverBride13:  To avoid questions about if the kid is invited, just make sure you put somewhere:

“____ seats are reserved in your honor” with the number of seats from that house.

After that, anyone who asks you is basically hostile-ly pushing to bring their uninvited kid and dealing with them should inspire less guilt. 

Post # 6
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12974 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would say all or nothing.  If I was told my kids weren’t invited and saw other kids there, I’d be offended.

Post # 7
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee

I would not be offended if my daughter is not invited and other kids are. Everyone who has ever planned a wedding knows you are dealing with a budget and dealing with the capacity of the venue. If people feel offended by this it is really their problem and not yours.

I think @Bebealways offers a very elegant solution

Post # 8
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@RiverBride13:  Yeah, but I’d say close family only. 

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