- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
Sooo I was thinking about going anon for this one, but then figured it was too much trouble for something that is really not all that controversial…so here goes.
So I officially got engaged to my Boyfriend or Best Friend of 2 1/2 years last month…he proposed to me at the Venetian in las Vegas…and it was just such an incredible and romantic moment. YAY!
Aaaaaaand now comes the wedding planning. But there is one burning question I need to address before all the other stuff gets rolling. Sooooo my question is this…should I invite my boss or not?
I’ve worked for my current boss for about 8 years, and we have a very close working relationship. He’s a very intelligent guy and I respect him for that. He’s also given me alot of personal advice over the years when it comes to dating, or investments, and was kind of a shoulder to lean on when times got rough.
So in that regard, he’s a nice person. And so is his wife (she’s also a sweetheart).
But on the other hand is this. Despite him being there for me in hard times, he can also be a complete ASSHOLE. There have been times where he’s spoken down to me in incredibly condescending and rude ways. And there are other times where he comes off as the most sexist and judgmental dick ever. I know that he does it because he admittedly feels more comfortable around me, but there are times where he just says the most OFF THE CUFF stuff and I think to myself…”where in the world does he come up with this crap?”
And then theres the other ways in which at times, I feel totally unappreciated by him work wise. I have sacrificed SO MUCH of my personal life in order to be a top producer for him…and sometimes I Just feel unappreciated. His justification? “Listen, I’m a numbers guy. I like you and we’re friends, but the moment you no longer perform…that’s when I need to make adjustments”. Adjustments means FIRED.
Now, I’ve never been threatened with that, but I know if it came to that…well I know where I stand.
That, also and the fact that he’s made it clear that he dislikes my family (I have opened up to him about personal family drama now and then). He thinks my dad is an abusive loser who abandoned me, yeada yeada. Of course, they will all be there at my wedding.
Soooo all of that makes me assume that it’s best if I don’t invite him. And frankly, i dont think id’ be all that comfortable having him there. Granted, he’s also made comments in the past about how had had to go to so and so’s wedding and how he’s pissed off that his weekend is ruined and he’d rather be doing other things, blah blah.
So what do you think?