(Closed) On multi-tasking

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1313 posts
Bumble bee

Good luck on the kitchen, how exciting that he brought it up! yay!! A new kitchen AND a ring!? Now that’s awesomeness.

He’s waiting on a… JOB! (Well, he has one, but def not what he wants)We’ve been waiting since his interview on Feb 2nd to see if he got into the union. Last year, the letter came around the middle or end of April. I am on pins and needles and hope that we get a YES this year ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 4
1325 posts
Bumble bee

I think for my guy it is mostly school. 

Post # 5
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s the uterus. Apparently the possession of this mystical organ makes one uniquely qualified to multi-task as well as handle unpleasant chores like cleaning the bathroom, scooping litter or changing poopy baby diapers!

Post # 6
48 posts

My guy is the same way! I think he is waiting for tax season to be over. He is working 12+ hours everyday, including weekends – there is NO WAY he would be able to pull off getting a ring/proposing/etc during this busy time. I know him too well. lol My fingers are crossed that after work settles down, he will focus on purchasing a ring and planning the proposal. We do have the same goal in mind to be engaged and planning a wedding by the end of the year. I’m grateful that we can have open conversations about getting married with the same timeline in mind. Now, I will be freaking out if its 01/2012 with no ring. LOL

And YAY on talks of looking at rings! That’s exciting!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
1325 posts
Bumble bee

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@bluespurrs: I agree! My mystical uterus gives me all SORTS of magical powers! lol

Like being able to find things that are right in front of my face or being able to remember where thigs are.

Post # 8
962 posts
Busy bee

@kay01: This post really resonates with me and it helps me understand a lot about my own situation. When the bf and I originally discussed engagement, we agreed that our parents should meet each other. Well, now he is super focused on them meeting (which is happening at the beginning of May). In fact, every time the topic of “the future” comes up in conversation he always says “first our parents will meet.” I keep thinking to myself, “this shouldn’t be a checklist. We know they are going to get along. It will go swimingly. Why can’t we look at rings in the meantime?” Now I see that maybe it is more of a “one thing at a time/ checklist” approach. In other words, maybe his is thinking “First, the parents meet. Then, we ring shop. Then, I plan the proposal.” Anyway, I think you’re right….men just are not capable of multi-tasking!

Post # 9
492 posts
Helper bee

All of the above. Haha. Job situation for both of us is unstable. I’m trying to find another job (so is he). I’m also working on opening up a business. I’m finishing school this summer (2nd degree). My son is also graduating (Kindergarten…haha) next month. Nothing that really affects our money situation besides the jobs. I really really want to move also. Our lease is actually up this month. But I don’t want to with the job situations and with our non-engaged situation. I figured I wouldn’t move again unless I was single, engaged, or married. So I will have to sit tight for now I guess as much as I dont’ want to. Uggghhh I need more space.

Post # 10
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@bluespurrs: LOL!!

Post # 11
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My SO is absolutely like this, and I am, to a point, when it comes to Big Life Things. He really, REALLY can’t think to make any other life plans until he graduates, and then either gets a raise at his current job, or gets a new higher-paying job. THEN he’ll be able to move on to getting engaged. He emailed his boss to see what his salary and benefits will be like after he graduates (which is when his title will officially go from intern to full-time employee), and he’ll find out early next week…if he gets the raise and benefits he’s hoping for, then we only have to wait until his graduation in May to start seriously thinking about engagement!

I’m a little bit different in that graduation and getting a well-paying job are, of course, priorities for me, but I can do those while also thinking about/being engaged. The only thing that is a stipulation for me to get engaged is that I have to know I’ll have a job after graduation. If I get to my graduation (in June) and still don’t have a job lined up, and we’re also not engaged by then, then I think we’d put the engagement business on hold until I got a job.

Post # 12
2891 posts
Sugar bee

I’m pretty sure engagement isn’t on his radar. He’s trying to change jobs, maybe even career fields and still needs to finish filing his taxes. ๐Ÿ™‚ I kinda had him on house search duty with me but I’m working on dropping it since it’s turning out to be a bust so he’s no longer on that tasker. Until he finds a new job I don’t think he’ll have time to really consider getting engaged. I think most guys are not multi-taskers, even though they try to be.

Hope the rest of your renovation goes well! (Crosses fingers) ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
363 posts
Helper bee

That is so funny!!! My SO and I are the same way.  He has to concentrate on one thing, I multi-task. 

I’m glad the ring shopping is now at the top of the list for you guys!!! Yay!!!!

As it stands now, my ring could come in anytime between now or the next 2 weeks.  For all I know, SO might already have the ring that we have ordered (but I don’t think so).

We are very busy these days with fostering (dogs).  The dog we have now is a lot of work, and we have decided that once we find a place for him, we are taking a break from fostering!!

PS – At least you get a nice new renovated kitchen!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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