Post # 1
i’ve noticed a phenomenon in the past few years where brides get 10-15 pounds below their normal weight for their weddings. i don’t think i’ve been to a single wedding in the past 3-4 years where this has not happened. to be clear, i’m talking about girls that were already thin and a healthy weight.
i haven’t done this, and it makes me feel a little bit self conscious. i’m a perfectly healthy weight for my height (BMI 22), but part of me feels like people are expecting me to be skinnier on my wedding day than i am from day to day. also, there are parts of my body i’m not the most comfortable with, but it’s a little too late to do anything about it now.
what do you guys think? am i worrying over nothing? i feel like i’m not as beautiful as other brides because of this…
Post # 3
I didn’t drop any weight and I am on the thick side. I want to look like myself on my wedding day, not like the skinny version of me. Don’t worry, you will look back on your wedding photos and actually recognize yourself.
Post # 4
I didn’t try to lose any weight for my wedding. I am who I am, and I’m not going to try to be a skinnier version of myself for one day. I don’t really understand this, when most of these people go right back to how they were before the wedding, so now, your wedding pics will show a version of you that only lasted a few weeks or months? I know every case is different, but this actually worries me.
If you are comfortable with the way you look, don’t change for anyone
Post # 5
I actually GAINED weight. All my husband kept saying at the altar was “you’re so beautiful”. 🙂
Post # 6
If you are already a healthy weight, you are what you need to be- your healthy self.
Post # 7
Skinny does not necessarily mean “more beautiful.” People who try to convince you otherwise can seriously go perform a sex act on themselves.
I didn’t lose weight for our wedding, because I am firmly anti-dieting in general. I might even have been heavier than usual because I was recovering from hip surgery and took the summer off from my usual intense training regimen because, you know, I was getting married. And I think I looked awesome. I mean, I understand everyone wants to look their best, but the fact that such a huge number of brides assume that looking your best means losing weight seems pretty sick to me.
People who go to weddings and use it as an excuse to police the bride’s weight… well seriously. Jerkfaces. Jerk. Faces.
Post # 8
I lost a little bit of weight during the last week of the wedding due to all the stress but it wasnt really that noticeable. I think for a lot of people its stress related too
Post # 9
i did lose a couple pounds before my first dress fitting but after that i stopped trying – unfortunately that last month i was SO stressed out that i lost more weight than i planned.
sometimes i think the weight loss is unintentional. that last week alone i lost about 10 pounds because i couldnt eat because i was so nervous that things would go wrong. no worries though gained it right back on the honeymoon! hahaha
Post # 10
i felt the same way as you. . ‘hm, maybe I should lose some pounds cause seems to be the thing to do’ –and then did nothing about it.
looking back, i really don’t think it matters. sure–i might have loved a few pictures more if i looked super thin. . .but really the effort it takes to lose 10-15 pounds was just not going to fit into my life leading up to the wedding. not to mention i was sure if i lost weight, i’d gain it all back eventually. my body likes being this size.
i say, don’t worry about it. 🙂
Post # 11
@Beluga: iawtc, except that performing sex acts on oneself is kind of fun.
I’ve had some issues with disordered eating in the past and resisting the diet-for-the-wedding message has been one of my big goals. So far, it’s going pretty well and I am ridiculously proud of myself.
I am all over the healthy eating and exercise thing, but I think that positive body image is the most important thing, and if you’re struggling with that, the other stuff will never last all that long or truly be all that healthy.
I do know one bride who ended up really skinny on her wedding, and several of the guests mentioned that she looked like she’d been run ragged with stress (which may have actually been the case… she was in a very stressful work/life situation in the months leading up to the wedding so it may have been unintentional weight loss). Everyone else… honestly I know brides who have dieted and brides who have been too stressed to eat for a week, and I’ve never really noticed a difference in how they looked at the wedding vs. normally. We are so much harsher critics of ourselves than those who love us are.
Post # 12
“i felt the same way as you. . ‘hm, maybe I should lose some pounds cause seems to be the thing to do’ –and then did nothing about it.”
This is exactly where I’m at. I figured that I should, never got around to it, and well, it’s too late now, so I’ll look like me.
Post # 13
I feel the same way. I feel like I should lose weight because that’s what everyone does for their wedding, but I haven’t actually done it yet and I know that after the wedding I probably will go right back to where I was.
I’m trying on dresses in my size now, I don’t want to lose too much weight because then alterations will be more expensive 😛 So I think I’m just going to stay as I am.
Post # 14
I did lose a little weight before the wedding (but I don’t know how much because I don’t step on scales), but it was because I’d gained a little “happy weight” while dating and just didn’t feel pretty. I knew I wanted to give myself the gift of feeling beautiful on my wedding day so I worked hard to drop a few, but I definately wouldn’t say I looked “skinny”!
If you feel good about how you look right now, own it and don’t worry if people think you need to lose weight. I’ve never gone to a wedding and thought “Gee–I really thought she’d be skinnier at her own wedding!” I just love seeing the beautiful, glowing bride no matter what her size is.
You’re so close to your wedding–do not put any extra pressure on yourself at this point. Just schedule yourself a massage instead.
Post # 15
I lost 30 lbs between 2008 and 2010 when I got married. I was down to the weight I was when DH and I met… only to put 15lbs back on in the three months following the wedding.
Post # 16
I’m not aiming to lose weight. I’m actually looking to just get rid of my tummy area a bit. But that nothing to do with the wedding . I just gained 15 lbs since last October because of stress and life changes and what not. I don’t recommend losing weight just for your wedding, it seems wierd to me. Sure work out, because its healthy, but I wouldn’t restrict myself if I were you.