(Closed) on not getting “bride skinny”

posted 10 years ago in Beauty
Post # 17
1776 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I chose to drop a few pounds before the wedding because its what I wanted to do. It had nothing to do with what people “expected” of me. I wanted to look the best I knew I could look for my wedding which meant shedding the “happy weight”. I had gained a lot of weight after college and even though I was considered a “healthy weight” I knew I could do better for myself- eating a bag of doritos for dinner is never a good idea. I lost 16 pounds for my wedding and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not losing weight for your wedding but there is also nothing wrong with trying to lose weight. You are not better or worse for choosing either path as long as you are happy with yourself thats what matters. Regardless of weight, as a wedding guest I have never felt a bride looked anything but beautiful.

Post # 18
2159 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I lost weight for my wedding only because I wasn’t a healthy weight and the wedding was great motivation to finally get my butt in gear and take off some unnecessary poundage. If I had been at my current weight to begin with, I wouldn’t have changed anything. I’ve been underweight before and it’s super unattractive; I wanted to look like me on my wedding day, not like one of the bony models in wedding magazines.

Post # 19
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I did not lose weight before the wedding because I honestly didn’t want people looking at my wedding pictures and thinking, “wow she got really fat since the wedding.”

For real though, I am comfortable with how I look. I did start working out with a trainer, not to lose weight, but so my arms wouldn’t jiggle as much. I actually gained a few pounds of muscle before the wedding.

Post # 20
1412 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I used the wedding as motivation to lose weight because I am/was way heavier than I had ever been in my life.

I have lost about 15lbs since April. not a ton but considering I was borderline 250lbs it’s a step in the right direction for my health.

I don’t think it’s something that should be done ONLY because of the wedding esp if you are already a healthy weight. Your SO loves you for you or they wouldn’t be marrying you.

Post # 21
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wanted to lose weight (as I’ve been wanting to lose 5lbs for a year now), but I’ve got no motivation. It’s a little late now for me as well, and I actually put on 5lbs from the tiem I purchased my dress until now.

While I have no intention to be ‘bride skinny’, I have heard about it from family, as they were in the “best shape of their life” and “worked their butts off for their wedding”. Really, I don’t care enough to worry about that. So what if I have an extra 10lbs on me that I didn’t want – I’m still a healthy weight.

Don’t worry about it and when you look back, it will be yourself that you see, and not something you had to work so hard to achieve and didn’t get to enjoy all the moments of planning and other things.

The owner of the salon I got my dress at keeps telling me I’ll drop those 5lbs by the wedding – sometimes I agree, then I rememer I stress eat!


…Maybe I shouldn’t of had that ice cream cone after lunch, and all those samples at Costco before ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 22
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I also have a BMI of 22 and I am not actively trying to lose weight for the wedding. My dress fits, so why worry? Sure, I’d love to lose the 10 – 15 lbs. I’ve gained since Fiance and I have been together, but I’m at a healthy weight for my height and body type so I’m not stressing it too much.

Post # 23
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am at a (just) healthy BMI, but about 15lbs up from my happy weight.  I thought that getting engaged and setting a wedding date would be the motivation I needed to finally get rid of those extra pounds.  So far, I have lost nothing, but I have tonned my arms a lot, which is something, at least.

I can’t tell you how much anxiety this is causing me ๐Ÿ™  People around me keep assuming and making comments that I must be working hard to look hot and great on our WD.  Ummm… do I look that bad now?

Ugh, this is such a sore spot with me and probably the most stressful thing for me about this wedding. 

Post # 24
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in a similar situation, I also have a BMI of 22 and I think I am hovering around my body’s set point. That said, I would still like to lose maybe 5 lbs for the wedding just to give myself a little boost of extra confidence. It wouldn’t make or break anything for me, and I think I look pretty good the way I am, but I would like to look a little more toned and feel more healthy in general.

For me, the wedding is a good motivator to do the things I would like to be doing anyway but often don’t make a priority (eating healthy, working out, etc), but it’s not necessarily about getting “bride skinny”.

Post # 25
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m not planning to be skinny for my wedding. Still, I’d like to drop a few more when engagement picture time comes around (next fall), and maintain that for the wedding (fall after that). 

Post # 26
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I gained weight so I wouldn’t have to get my dress altered. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 27
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i’m overweight, and i’m still not planning on losing any. mostly because i don’t want to pay for any alterations on my dress if i do lose weight.

Post # 28
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m a little heavier than I would like to be, but didn’t lose weight for the wedding.  Our engagement was an incredibly stressful time (for reasons not related to our engagement), so losing weight was not a top priority.  I was pleasantly surprised how happy I was with the way I looked in my wedding photos.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have no plans to lose weight.  All I want to do is lose some of my jiggle, and I will be happy! I don’t like being super skinny. I have curves and love them!

Post # 30
1176 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am in the process of losing weight for the wedding, but only because I was ridiculously overweight before, and needed to lose some anyway.  The wedding is just perfect motivation.  I am still considered “overweight” accoring to my BMI, but if I had to get married tomorrow (twist my arm, why don’t you?), I wouldn’t be upset by how I look.  That being said, I would like to get myself into the “normal” weight range, although even then, I know it will be at the top end of that scale.  I’ve already told Fiance that I will never be skinny, and he doesn’t care.  He loves me whatever weight I am, but does want me to be healthy and happy. 

Post # 31
4211 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I lost weight during our engagment, but I wasn’t trying to and didn’t want to. I was just so stressed that I couldn’t gain any weight. Several people commented on it and I didn’t know what to do. After the wedding, I gained the weight right back thanks to my over indulging on my honeymoon.

I would have rather just been my natural self because when I look back at pictures I see how thin I was and it doesn’t look normal!

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