(Closed) on not getting “bride skinny”

posted 10 years ago in Beauty
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - ceremony in our family's Catholic church in Watsonville; reception at the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk

Oh girls! I’ve gained 15 lbs. since I got engaged, so I’ve only recently begun working to lose that amount before the wedding. I’m realistic about my normal weight and trying to get back there and no lower ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that being healthy every day should be important and not trying to drop weight just because of your wedding. Then after you gain if back and you look back at your pictures and it is not your true self.

I have lost a few pounds since I bought my dress but now it fits perfect and I don’t need alterations, so that was a bonus. But I’ve been working on a healthy lifestyle, working out etc for the last couple years as that is what I like. I wouldn’t try and lose weight just because I’m getting married.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Entangled: “We are so much harsher critics of ourselves than those who love us are.” Yes, that.

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@bee_elle: Yes, you are worrying over nothing. You will be as beautiful as any bride… because you will be the bride! And I’m not just blowing smoke. There’s something about the actual wedding day – the excitement, the dress, the hair, the makeup, the love from all your friends and family, and especially the sheer *happiness* – that virtually guarantees you will feel, and BE, stunning, plus or minus 5 or 10 or 20 pounds!

As an older bride (47) who has never been even close to skinny, I was not focused on getting “bride skinny” at all. However, I did fall in love with and buy a sample dress that was just slightly tight. It looked fine and had a corset that made it work, so I didn’t stress out about it. But in the end, I lost a few pounds in the last week before the wedding simply because I was too busy to eat! LOL That is likely what happened to some of the brides you mention in your post, as well.

I can’t imagine that any of my guests were focused on my weight that day. I wasn’t, and my husband-to-be certainly wasn’t. And just because I love sharing pics, here’s one that shows my not-so-skinny but ever-so-happy self and my adoring groom (right as he met me half-way up the aisle):

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a healthy BMI at 22.5, which still puts me in a size 10 but I am more than okay with that. I originally had intentions of losing weight for the wedding, but never really put any effort into it and don’t particularly wish I had.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had a baby in February so I was worried about needing to lose weight for the wedding. My whole life I’ve been fairly normal/thin so I wasn’t sure how much I’d need to diet, or how good I’d be at it.

I’m down to 29 days left before the wedding and I am at my pre-pregnancy weight (with the help of breastfeeding) but originally I thought I’d like to be 5 pounds lighter than that for my wedding.

Now I’m not so concerned with dieting and I’m more concerned with making my arms look buff ๐Ÿ™‚  I’m going to start doing tons of push ups and pull ups and then some abs just to tighten up for these last few weeks. Otherwise, I’m just not going to worry about it.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Most people who I know have lost weight for the wedding gained it back very shortly thereafter.  I am not also losing weight for the wedding–I feel like I should be though–like I am doing something wrong ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not trying to lose any weight for the wedding, but I am trying to make sure I am keeping up my weight training so that I look as toned as possible. So technically my weight is going up, and my size is getting slightly smaller (still the same size just a little more breathing room lol). I have a strapless gown so I’m afraid of the armpit rolls… soo weight lifting it is! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@bee_elle:  In my case, I was already unhappy with my weight (I’ve gained 15 lbs since moving in with Fiance two years ago) and have been struggling to lose them.  It’s nice to have a fixated goal/date to try to do it by, plus the reward is extra special!  Feeling beautiful and having pictures of you reaching your goal and looking your best. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I don’t get this, either. I can see using the wedding as a motivation to begin leading a healthier lifestyle, but losing a bunch of weight for one day? And for others’ expectations? Not a good idea.

Stop comparing yourself to other women and you’ll feel a lot better. Promise.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I ordered my dress at a comfortable full figured size, maintained my lifestyle up til the wedding, and had a comfortably fitting, flattering dress. I *should* lose some weight, but I wasn’t going to mess around with the stress before the wedding and/or major alterations on my dress!

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t specifically diet, but I did sort of recommit myself to getting fit.  I don’t do diets well- I just freakin’ love food too much, and beer, and rich food, and good beer… Haha.

That said, I did start a pretty intense workout regiment that I doubt I’ll keep up in full force after the wedding. I don’t photograph well, and because I’m large-chested, I photograph looking a lot larger than I actually am, so I wanted to make sure everything is as tight and toned as possible to counteract that in the pictures as much as I possibly can.  So right now, I’m doing 5-6 days a week of a combination of kickboxing, boxing with heavy bags, spinning and yoga, as well as once-a-week pole dancing classes (what a freakin’ workout they are!!).  After the wedding I’ll likely drop the pole dancing (great workout, but holy crap those classes are expensive) and drop to maybe 4-5 days a week of the other stuff.

That said, I’ve actually gone up a pant size (my butt gets bigger when I workout like this) and I’ve gained 15lbs of muscle.  So I look better, more toned, but I’m heavier by numbers ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 43
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756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am losing weight. I just want to get in shpae and look my best for my big day

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t get bride skinny.  I had good intentions to work out and be more fit for the wedding and life in general but everyday life and wedding planning got in the way.  I ended up getting married at my heaviest.  I wish I hadn’t been at the top of my weight range but it is what it is.  Luckily I am a fairly petite person to begin with and my extra weight is not drastic but enough for me to be semi self conscious of it leading up to the wedding.  Honestly the day of the wedding I felt beautiful and would have no matter what weight I was.  Weight is number and I am thankful that I did not worry about that number leading up to the wedding.  There are plently of other things to worry about.  My husband and I joke that now that the wedding is over we will actually have time to get fit.  I am glad he loves me no matter my pant size. I look forward to working off the extra weight post wedding and will never regret how I looked on my wedding day.  To other brides, just be you the day of and everyone will see your bridal glow, not the size of your body!  

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was already a healthy weight and considered thin before we got engaged, and now that the wedding is quickly approaching, I have no desire to lose weight but I do want to be more toned.  So I’ve been running a lot and working out with a trainer for the past few months, and I love the changes in my body.  I wouldn’t say I’m “bride skinny” since I didn’t lose weight, but I did get more toned.

Post # 46
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Busy bee

  

@hardtoconcentrate:  +1

I’m not trying to get “bride skinny” either.  I’ve been smaller than I am now and I actually didn’t like how I looked.  It didn’t look healthy.  I’m happy with my weight, but I just want to tone up a bit.  That’s not for the wedding per se, but just a general health thing.

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