(Closed) On Racism and White Supremacy

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Are you secretly/openly racist?
    Yes - I believe my race is superior to others : (29 votes)
    5 %
    Somewhat - I'm not really racist but I would never marry someone of a different race : (58 votes)
    10 %
    No - I believe all races are equal : (463 votes)
    83 %
    Not quite - I believe that I belong to an inferior race : (10 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    8704 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    What does wanting to marry someone of the same race have to do with racism? I never wanted to marry outside my race but I am far from racist. Also, how did you not know this stuff existed? 

    Post # 4
    14703 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    There is always going to be hatred and prejudice in the world. The good news is that racism isn’t that common or you wouldn’t see the backslashes that you do (like the Paula Deen backlash). 


    Post # 6
    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Arshim:  I am a teacher.  My students are all white and the majority are very rich.  The only time I really lose my cool is when students say racist things, make racists jokes, etc.  They often do not think they are doing anything wrong and then I just lose it on them!  Luckily I haven’t gotten in trouble, let’s hope it stays that way.

    Post # 7
    1372 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    How is refusing to marry someone solely because they are of a different race not racist? This is an honest question.

    Post # 8
    4042 posts
    Honey bee

    @MrsPanda99: @gelaine22:  I think she meant it is more as “I would never consider marrying somewhat outside of my race–because they are not the same race as me.” Which would make someone racist. 

    So somebody may not openly/outwardly say or express racist things, but they would not consider marrying someone of a different race because they do not think it is compatible or acceptable (solely based on race). 

    Post # 9
    78 posts
    Worker bee

    @Arshim:  Where are you from Arshim? I also never knew this kind I thing existed until I took a trip down to the southern states with my family when I was about 15. I was SHOCKED at the racism going on… Even the subtle things. I walked up to a black man to ask directions to a restaurant, and he looked downright shocked that a teenaged white girl would go to HIM to ask a question instead of the other white people nearby. It was effing weird. 

    Post # 10
    9693 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @worldtraveler:  Maybe it is then. It’s all semantics so it can be taken however someone wants to take it. My personal preference is to marry someone from the same cultural background as me (Russian). Luckily for me, I met my FI who happens to be Russian. If that wasn’t possible, I would still want to marry someone the same colour as me. Is that because I hate everyone who is black, brown, or purple? No. But it’s my personal preference for marriage.

    Post # 11
    78 posts
    Worker bee


    @MrsPanda99:  It is not at all racist to marry within your race. However, eliminating the possibility of marrying someone who is not of your race is definitely racist. Why would you ever refuse to marry them unless you think they are not good enough for you?

    Post # 12
    12259 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think I could have married someone of another race. While I’m only a teensy bit racist (and almost everyone is, juuust a little), my family is VERY racist, and would not have accepted someone non-white into the family!

    Post # 13
    924 posts
    Busy bee

    @gelaine22:  This is interesting to me, my little brother only likes to date white girls (we’re white) which I honestly do find a little off putting, but he is no racist. is it because you’ve never found anyone outside of your own race attractive? or for other reasons? for example I’ve found other women to be attractive but I don’t think I would ever date one!

    I for one find myself engaged to a white guy when I was pretty sure I wouldn’t marry a white guy ever!

    Post # 14
    1517 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Arshim:  I honestly can’t even bring myself to click on the link you provided because I just don’t want to see it.

    Unfortunately, I know there are plenty of people out there who are racist, just as there are plenty of people out there who are homophobic.  I remember having a conversation in middle school with some guy who totally thought white people were superior to all others.  I just genuinely didn’t get it.  I remember asking him, “So did someone of another race hurt you or your family?  I mean, where does this hate and anger come from?” and his response was along the lines of, “No!  I would kill them if they came near me or my family!”  Uhhh … Okay.  I stayed far far away from that guy after that.  

    I was 13 and in 8th grade at the time.  I’m now 28 years old and that conversation haunts me to this day.

    The only thing that gives me any hope is that I know there are many people out there who want to teach their children about equality and appreciating/learning from the differences in others (whether it be race, religion, sexual orientation, etc.).  I’m proud to say that’s how I was raised, and my fiance and I will be raising our children (when we have them) in that manner.

    Post # 15
    9693 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @NotTheDoctor:  Hm. I can see that this will blow up and quite frankly, I don’t need my life or choices evaluated by strangers. Suffice it to say that it is my preference and if that makes me racist in your eyes, then I’m totally, 100% okay with that.

    Post # 16
    4042 posts
    Honey bee

    @Arshim:  To answer your question, I have family that lives in Kentucky who are very racist (distant relatives). Fortunately, my immediate family is not racist. Both my FI and I are of mixed ethnic backgrounds, so our families are very diverse and inclusive. 

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