On the fence about having kids

posted 2 years ago in No Kids
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Busy bee

My parents told me yesterday that children enhance your life

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Helper bee

kindnessisfree :  Thanks so much for sharing the links to these books!  Maybe if I have time this wknd I’ll pop into barnes&noble and browse some. I can relate to a lot of what you’re saying! 

Except the big difference is I don’t have as much time to think about things as you. I’m in my early 40’s and wanted my own, but suffered several losses. So before I never questioned that I wanted kids, but deciding to adopt is a whole different thing. And with the cost and my age, I’m leaning towards going child-free. I still think it would be a big adjustment b/c I’ve always thought I wanted a kid. However, on the flip-side, I’ve gotten really good at building a full life with myself and with my husband. The idea of being able to get closer and closer to my husband b/c we can truly devote time to one another sounds really nice to me! I see the pros and cons of either choice. One of the things I’m struggling with the most is finances – neither my husband or I want to “just get by” financially – we want to feel secure and comfortable.

Give it some time and thought – I’m sure you’ll decide one way or another!

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