(Closed) On the fence: Wedding vs. Elopement

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Watching. I’m currently on the fence as well. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

we were planning the big huge wedding and in the end had a very intimate surprise wedding. we decided to do it that way as everytime we thought of eloping we were upset that his parents and our close friends wouldnt be there. I was worried that I would regret not having the big party but I am so ridiculously happy that we did it the way we did! We’re MARRIED!!! and in the end thats what was most important to us.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Honestly a small wedding with like 25 people will still require A LOT of planning…I wanted to just elope and then throw a dinner party type shindig to celebrate after. My fiancé was totally against it….but guess who planed the whole wedding??  lol MEeeee.

If you are on the same page then elope ! Get a good photographer and then celebrate with family + friends.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  lovealways.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We had some family drama, but for us the biggest appeal was what we would get for our money. We’re eloping to Paris (from the U.S.) and traveling around Europe for a little over two weeks – for the same amount of money as hosting an 80-person typical wedding in our town. The most important things to me/us were photography, dress, and being married, and we didn’t need anything from a traditional wedding to do that. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I’ve decided on elopement. None of the stress of planning, saving thousands of dollars, and the idea that it will just be the two of us = easy decision for me. But we are older (58 and 45), he’s been married before, and none of our parents are alive, so that makes it easier, I think. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Little Chapel of Flowers

I say elope, and have a small party to celebrate with close family and friends when you get back! I mean for what a wedding costs, you can have an awesome elopement/honeymoon. But I am biased because that is what I am doing.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Elope! I wish I did. And I’d love to be able to take back my decision not to every day. I’ve got nonstop family drama thou.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Here’s my experience.

DH and I got engaged Feb 2015 after 4.5years together. We started planning a wedding for June 2016. I personally never wanted the big hullabaloo of a traditional wedding, but DH wanted the “party” aspect of it. 

We could have afforded the wedding we were planning, but WHY spend all the money if we (Mostly “i”) weren’t totally into it. I didn’t want to spend our savings on something that was for “everyone else”. 

So around June 2015 we scrapped all our original plans for the traditional wedding and I went to work on something new. 

We already had our bands purchased so we didn’t have to think about that, but I did want a long white dress. Of course! 

We had our ceremony on a Friday afternoon in a lovely little gazebo outside of our courthouse. I had a wedding dress, a bouquet, and the greatest man in front of me promising me forever. πŸ™‚ we only had around 15 people watch us get married (immediate family, close friends) 

Saturday we had an I Do BBQ in our backyard with about 50 people. I rented tables/chairs/table cloths. The whole thing cost us around $5000 and we are just as married as anyone else. 7 months later I couldn’t have imagined doing it any other way. We still have people telling us it was the most fun they ever had at a wedding type event.

 

So go with your heart. Don’t let anyone tell you your wedding has to be a certain way 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

go with your heart…. but my vote is elope unless a traditional wedding is REALLY important to you. If you’re on the fence… elope. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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MiniMeow:  We’re planning to elope… well, actually a private civil ceremony at the County Clerk’s office but we’re having a casual celebration the following weekend with 50 guests (we’re planning to have the civil ceremony on a Thursday).

We decided to do this because our priorities are our condo (which we recently bought) and travel (we have 2 trips planned this year). 

I think your friends and family will understand in whatever you choose. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

There’s something romantic about two people in love just running away and doing what makes THEM happy. I vote for the elopement. I’m sure that your family and friends will still be more than happy for you.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

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MiniMeow:  reverse point of view by gender, otherwise same here. watching πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee

 I might have a similar outcome to your 

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