(Closed) On the opposite spectrum of RSVPs… not getting 'enough' Nos?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@IzzyBear:  I’m like that too. We can afford the number of people we are inviting, at 120, but if we get 80 and meet the minimum of the reception place and save some cash, I’ll be even happier. 

I originally wanted a very small affair, but family politics says if you invite so and so you have to invite the others. Our parents are helping with the budget so I feel most of the guests are for them. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My friend with an August 24 wedding has encountered this, too. I’ve heard that the definite “yes” RSVPs come in right away because people are sure of their schedules. The “nos” will trickle in from people who have to check their schedules, consider expenses, etc.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep. Waaayyyy too many yeses. We meant to have about 100 people total (including wedding paty) but thanks to Mother-In-Law my fiance’s guest list was 78 people. We were hoping an early morning ceremony thats a fairly long drive for all of them would stop a lot from coming but nope they’re all saying yes. Sigh. At this rate they won’t all even fit into the dining room.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Our guest list stands at around 70. All of our guests are our close friends and family but we are expecting some people to decline (such as my friend who lives in California – we’re in the UK! – and some of our very elderly relatives). Nevertheless, I still expect around 60-65 guests to turn up on the day.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We invited a lot. 521 to be exact. And we had 400 RSVP yes. However, until we got back over 200 RSVPs, we only had about ten reply “no.” In our experience, the people who are really excited to come reply first. We also learned that if you give people the option to bring a guest, plan on about half of them coming. We were hoping for only 375 “yes’s” but had 30 plus ones.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@virgomasala80 ; Almost all of NO’s came within the last week of our due date! I think we maybe got 1 or 2 No’s outside of that.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not gonna lie, I’m relying and hoping for a few declines in order to be under the max capacity for the reception room.  My FH went invite-crazy and invited people he hasn’t talked to in years, and now we’re at 154 with a room that holds 120.  My hope is that god forbid we do go over, we can book the larger room at our venue. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So far we’ve had abut 40% of the replies back and they are all “yes”.  My guest list became longer than I intended so I am really hoping for about 20 people to decline (out of 150 invited).  Hopefully the stranglers will be the ones less able to attend.  We can fit all 150 if need be but it will be a bit cramped and also obviously that much more expensive.

I have a few overseas people who haven’t replied yet so I’m hoping that some of them turn us down!  I feel bad wanting “no” replies but I really need some people to drop out.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We were hoping for more declines, too! We’re not too far over and suspect there will be at least a few dropoffs. Everytime a “no” comes in, I’m like THANK GOD! LOL

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Fiance is jokingly upset everytime we get a yes RSVP–“there’s another $200 I have to spend!” Haha! But he is joking and we are greatful that people want to spend our day with us 🙂 That said… I do hope we start getting some no RSVPs!

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@virgomasala80:  Our invites went out 1 week ago tomorrow and so far we have had 89 yes, 3 no & waiting on 20….we did online invites & I am THRILLED with how this all went down…people are responding almost immediately. I can also see who has not viewed the invite so I can send it again if need be. I am a little overwhelmed with just how many are coming mind you:)

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why on earth would you EVER invite more people than your venue can hold? Don’t forget to count yourself and your vendors in your total number too. I also don’t get inviting people and hoping they say no. I think it’s ridiculous.

I think the poster who said the decline rate depends on your guest list is spot on. Never thought of it like that! We’re inviting about 80, I’m curious to see what our yes rate will be.

Post # 30
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Newbee

I’m like THANK GOD! LOL

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did not invite more people than our venue could cope with…at least 30 people less and we have had a few say no. We did bump up a few people but even then we are 10 people down our original number. Doesn’t bother us – less money to pay!

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