Post # 1
I hope this is okay to post here.
I just wanted a women’s perspective on my issue. I am on the smaller side when it comes to male parts and it’s been a major problem in past relationships. Girls have broken up with me because of it and I’ve been laughed at before after things get intimate.
So my question for everyone is that if you were dating a guy that was on the smaller side, would you want to know upfront that he was small or just wait to find out when that time comes?
Thank you all on advance!
Post # 2
Your issue won’t be a problem for a lot of women so don’t worry too much about it. Also, the right woman for you, the one who really falls in love for you as you, will love everything about you and it won’t matter to her. Hold out for the right person before being so intimate, since you’re sensitive about your size. Nobody should laugh at you, that’s terrible and I’m sorry that happened to you.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Honestly, not every guy is a big as he claims. If someone truly cares about you, they shouldn’t be laughing that’s just immature. I am a beliver of size doesn’t matter, it’s how you use it. My fiance is smaller than all of the other guys I’ve been with and he makes it work. When I don’t get off he supplements with toys and whatnot, so it’s really no big deal. I would never discuss that until the time comes. You are who you are don’t let some shallow people let you feel down about yourself. Embrace it.
Post # 4
I agree with above, size isn’t everything.
Find the right girl and the chemistry will be amazing regardless of size. Don’t bring it up ahead of time.
Post # 5
I’ve dated someone on the smaller size once, and he told me about it beforehand. I think it’s better to be honest about it rather than catching someone off guard. I still dated him regardless and we parted ways because of difference rather than intimate issues.
Post # 6
I would find it very odd if a guy brought that up ahead of time, as if it’s some sort of deformity or something. Anyone that would laugh is a terrible person, TBH. Imagine the reverse, would anyone advise a woman to mention that she has a wide vagina ahead of time so the guy isn’t caught off guard?
I think it’s one of those situations where if they matter, they won’t mind and if they mind, then they don’t matter.
Oh, and in my experience there has been no correlation between size and overall enjoyment.
Post # 7
The last girl got super mad at me that I didn’t bring it up beforehand. She took it as I sign that I was being dishonest or something. I guess I just never thought I should say “hey I’m small” after the first date.
Post # 8
i’d find it weird af if a guy came out and told me he was on the smaller side. That’s not something that needs to be in a conversation, that’s like me being like I’m on the looser side. Sex is definitely a factor in a relationship but it’s not the only thing important in the relationship.
that girl was also probably a rude person
Post # 9
“Small” is not a problem. As a woman, when I’ve had an issue, it’s been because a guy is small AND he’s super insecure/needy about it AND he makes a big deal out of it AND he doesn’t make up for it in other ways (hands, toys, tongue). Maybe you’re just dating the wrong women, or maybe it’s your attitude. I haven’t slept with you, I don’t know. Just something to think about.
Post # 10
I understand the whole size doesn’t matter, but I feel like there is some truth in it does. I am quite smaller than average and I think that puts me at a disadvantage right off the bat. I feel like girls dont enjoy that part of me. It seems that most my relationships fail shortly after they find out my size or after we get intimate
Post # 11
The problem isn’t your size – it is the women who you have been with. I am so sorry for that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
If it makes you feel any better my husband has ‘too much’ and intimacy is often uncomfortable and most sexual positions are out of the question…and he can’t really ‘get off’ when he knows he is hurting me so nobody wins.
It doesn’t matter if you are smaller, it’s how you USE it! 🙂
Post # 13
I think your insecurities are getting in the way. I’ve had partners in the past who were small and it was never an issue. Ever. We didn’t even discuss it because it was no big deal.
If a woman is rude enough to make this an issue, date someone else. Seriously. If anyone ever made a comment about the size of my vagina I would be so offended, I’d find a new partner.
Post # 14
so I’ll be totally honest with you. I once dated a guy who was smaller than average. I had wondered why we weren’t sleeping together by a certain point in the dating game since I was totally game for it, but looking back on it, I can see he waited until we had developed some real feelings before taking off his clothes. The first time I saw him it did give me pause. However, the guy was a master with his hands and tongue so quite frankly…it was some of the best sex of my life.
I’ve been with guys who had a wider or longer penis and every so often I find myself being anxious about experiencing some pain while doing acrobatics, or going in reeeeeeally slowly at first, but this guy, we could just get it on and I never felt any of that. So, I relaxed and had MAJOR fun with him. So…up your manual and oral game and GET IT ON CONFIDENTLY!
Post # 15
Honestly, the majority of women don’t orgasm just from intercourse anyway (check Google for a study if you don’t believe me). Skill with hands and tongue will more than compensate for size.