(Closed) On the verge of a miscarriage :'( advise/prayers appreciated

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So sorry you are your husband are going through this! I haven’t had any similar experience, but I know the issue comes up on the Bee pretty frequently, so I’m sure there are others here you can talk to.  Hang in there, you’ll be in my thoughts!

Post # 4
11391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am so so so sorry! ๐Ÿ™ Its really hard.

My husband & I had tried for 4 months as well, when we found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I too had cramping from the time we found out but nothing bad. Just… noticeable. I started spotting on Christmas eve (I had found out on the 16th, so on the 24th I started spotting.) It was VERY light. I went to the doctor and they said it could be normal or not. I then had an ultrasound and they could find no heart beat but could see its heart beat. I stayed positive once they said they could see its heart beat. They told us to come back in a weak to see if they could hear it.

Before the week ended, I stood up and blood poored down my legs. My husband was JUST opening the door as he had just got off work. He rushed me to the ER and they comfirmed about 30 minutes or so later the baby had no heart beat. ๐Ÿ™ It was terrible, terrible, terrible. I had not felt pain like that before in my life. I am not telling you this so you don’t stay positive. I am just giving you my experince. I would try to stay positive and have hope though. Even if I was going through it again. Stress only makes it worse. But I KNOW how hard it is to NOT stress.

I am sending you BIG BIG BIG hugs. Please keep us updated.

Post # 5
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Nothing is done until it’s done. Just stay positive until you hear something for sure.

Sending lots of hugs and sticky baby dust your way!

Post # 6
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Almostamummy:   As hard as it may be, try and stay positive – it doesn’t sound like it’s a foregone conclusion that a miscarriage is imminent.   5 weeks is pretty early to see anything so that’s not a conclusive indicator.  The fact that your numbers rose is also good – no, it’s not quite doubling, but it’s still a significant rise so there is still a chance things could be going along just fine.  

I know it’s hard – I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks before this pregnancy and it is awful.  I know you want to protect yourself from more hurt but I think you just need to stay strong, keep positive, and hope for the best.  Time is the only thing that will give you answers….

Also, just as a sidenote – cramping is not necessarily an indicator of anything bad.  I had horrendous cramps from week 4 to week 8 that would wake me during the night in agony, breaking out in a cold sweat from the pain, and were absolutely excruciating – it was all completely normal though as I’m now 37 weeks and everything is fine.  

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way and hoping for the best!


Post # 7
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When i got pregnant with my daughter (4 years old now) i was really scared as i had miscarried previously. At about 5 – 6 weeks, i was in schock when found out i was spotting , at work. Immediatly went to the Hospital and yes, they did an ultrasound and the sack was there alright but like you it wasn’t possible to see if everything was alright. The doctor said that in so little time of pregnancy the best was to have gone straight home and lie down because there’s not much to do but to rest and wait..so home i went and rested for 2 weeks. Yes, i had strong cramps and yes, i was bleeding lightly. After a few days they were gone!!!!!!!!! And my beautiful daughter was born in July 2007 :-).You have not lost your child as yet. Take as much rest as you can (i barely stood up for 2 weeks) and hopefully it will turn out ok. Sending positive vibes your way – i KNOW how scary it is….

Post # 8
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have no advice, just sending warm wishes and hope.

Post # 9
3360 posts
Sugar bee

praying is never a waste of time ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ll be praying for you ! Keep us updated ! 

Post # 10
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

sending positive thoughts and prayers your way *hugs*

Post # 11
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I am wishing you the best of luck. I had a miscarriage at the end of last year and it is a very painful and difficult thing to go through. Until you know for sure try to keep hope!

Post # 12
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Almostamummy:  I’m so sorry – the not knowing is so difficult. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks, after 3 weeks in limbo w/ spotting and low non-doubling hcg numbers. I am pregnant again now, and w/ this pregnancy I had pretty bad cramping at times, plus a little spotting one day, but baby seems to be fine (I’m 13 weeks). The things that helped me get through those awful weeks in my 1st pregnancy were talking to friends, family, and the women on this site who’d had similar experiences… their support helped me so much. I think the best outlook is one of hoping for the best but preparing for the worst… it is generally not good when hcg is not doubling, but for about 10% of women, it doesn’t mean anything bad. At this point, it is pretty much out of your control (which sucks!) – but also means that there’s nothing you need to worry about doing/not doing. Just be good to yourself and rest when you can, since all of this is emotionally exhausting for sure. I tried to stay busy and to plan fun activities (going to the movies, out to dinner, buying new books/magazines, shopping, taking the dog on easy walks, etc.) with my husband… it helped to pass the time and kept my spirits up. Finally, while this line of thinking is not for everyone, one thing that helped me was thinking that if there was something wrong with the baby, this was God/nature’s way of taking care of things… I prayed for the baby to hang on, but also for peace and understanding if it was not meant-to-be. I don’t know… for me that brought some comfort. If there’s anything I can do, or if you want to chat/vent, whatever, please PM me.  

Post # 13
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I can’t imagine what your hubby and you are going through! Just try to STAY STRONG. Stay calm. The last thing this situation needs is added stress. Stress creates high levels of cortisone. I doubt that helps the situation any. If anything, it will probably make it worse. So STOP STRESSING!!! And take LOADS AND LOADS of bed rest. THAT’S IT. I am praying for you!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 14
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Almostamummy:  So sorry you are going through this. I, myself, went through a miscarriage back in February. I found out I was pregnant in January and two days before my first appointment I saw spotting as I was about to get in the shower. Darling Husband & I went to the ER & they only saw a gestational sac, but should have seen more because I was close to 7 weeks. They diagnosed me with a threatened miscarriage and told me to follow up with my OBGYN. On the following Monday, I went to my already scheduled appointment with my OBGYN and they ran bloodwork to see if my levels were doubling. They were around 5700 with the first blooddraw and only went up to 6500 with the second. I miscarried a week later. Although that was my outcome, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it will be yours too. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Try to stay strong.

Post # 15
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m so sorry that this is happening to you ๐Ÿ™ I’m thinking of you and praying for you. I’m hoping that you’ll be updating us with some happy news soon!

Post # 16
56 posts
Worker bee

I`m so sorry, I do not have any advice but my thoughts are with you and your Fiance. 

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