- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
**DISCLAIMER** this is not a thread intended to start a debate…every situation is different….i’m just interested in hearing the opinions and positions of those here in the hive. so please be nice bees.
Also: for arguement’s sake: Let’s ASSUME cheating means actually physically “doing it” with someone other than the person you are in a relationship with.
What are your thoughts on that phrase? Have you ever cheated? (If you care to share) Have you ever been cheated on? any other info/opinions on the matter??
Once upon a time, I was a cheater. Just that statement alone is enough to cause up some flare which is why I put a disclaimer at the beginning of this post. But this isn’t some made up story to start drama nor do I think I am trying to be a troll…no, I’m writing this in a sort of “Hi, my name is MamaHusky and I’m a cheater. It’s been XXXX amount of time since I last cheated on my sig. other.” type of way….i’m not seeking pity nor judgement…..rather expressing my story and as well as my curiousity as to others beliefs on the subject….
I have never cheated on FH. nor have I ever felt the desire to….and I plan on keeping it that way. The person inside of me who cheated on her previous exes was someone cold and dark….i could tell ya a million excuses on “why” i did what i did in my past, but it wouldnt make any difference because the simple fact is, I cheated. There have been times where I research reasons why a cheater would cheat….why a serial-cheater keeps cheating….I’ve aimed to get to the core of my “issues” ….have I succeeded in learning why I did what i did? barely…..
which comes to that oh-so-magical phrase that I loathe so much….. “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” I used to think it was true. Heck, I was addicted to secrecy….addicted to feeling that sense of danger, of wrong-doing….I often thought of it as that “alter-ego” of mine cuz I would remove myself from the scenario so-to-speak and become this completely different person who was daring and saught the danger and didn’t care for the consequences…..I didn’t go sleeping around everyday…..there were months that would go by between the times that “SHE” would come out …..you might think I’m crazy….some of you may loose respect for me….I’m not proud of what I’ve done…I’m not proud of my past….I can only take my experiences and mistakes and learn from them…..
i risk the possibility of “tainting” myself on the hive because I’m guessing the majority of you don’t tolerate cheating or cheaters at all….i respect that….cheating is an extremely terrible thing….it breaks hearts. it ruins families. i know this and understand it and yet, i still did it….and i absolutely hate that i did….none of my friends know i’ve been not-so-innocent before….none of my family either…..not even my past sig. others ever found out, well, at least not to my knowledge…..but i wanted to share all this with yous because today, i found myself in a situation, that without a doubt, would have taken me back to my old ways…..and i looked that “beer” in the face and said “no. i dont want you or need you, i’ve changed”….
i won’t go into details cuz i’ve rambled on quite long enough…..but to me, it just solidifies the emotions I have for FH….he knows of everything in my past…..he still accepted me for who i am…..he loves me, he satisfies me, he is my best friend, my other half….he believes in me and makes me want to be a better person….i never liked the fact that i cheated…yet always did it anyways…..this might sound like bull** to some of you but for me its real, and i dont kno how else to put it…..the temptation will always be there….but i refuse to succome to my old ways…..
and i have the rest of my life with FH to prove that phrase wrong….
so what are you’re thoughts on the phrase?? Have you ever cheated? (If you care to share) Have you ever been cheated on? any other info/opinions on the matter??