Once married, how will you refer to your husband's parents?

posted 11 months ago in Names
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

I call them by their first names. I would never call them Mom/Dad lol. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I called them by their first name when we were dating, now that we are currently engaged and I won’t change that after the wedding. They aren’t my parents so I would never call them mum and dad, I don’t see how that could be seen as disrespectful.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

twentytwentybride :  I call them by their first names and we’ve been together for over a decade.  My parents always used Mom/Dad with their in-laws, but that feels weird to me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I call my Mother-In-Law by her first name and my husband calls my mom by her first name. Thought of calling another woman “mom” just creeps me out.

twentytwentybride :  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I’m not married yet, but I’ve started calling them mom/dad. I’ve never called my own parents mom/dad, so it doesn’t feel all that weird to me. Pretty much just new titles for new people lol. But to use the same titles I use for my parents for them…I would never be able to do that.

I think just using their first names is fine if that’s what you’re comfortable with.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

Same. Call them by their first names. I would feel super weird calling them Mom or Dad. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

twentytwentybride :  same as the others, I call them by name. I truly love my in laws but they aren’t my parents. Now that we have a kid, I also refer to them as grandpa/grandma name so he can learn what to call them (neither family wanted an alternate grandparent name so first names are still included to differentiate). 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I called my ex-MIL/FIL by their first name sand plan to do the same when I marry SO.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think my ILs would prefer if I called them Mom/Dad, as the other 2 SILs do (even the one who isn’t married yet). When I refer to them in convo with my SILs, I’ll say Mom/Dad, but otherwise, it’s weird.

Darling Husband calls my parents by their first names, as does my Brother-In-Law.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

twentytwentybride :  I will continue to call them by their first names, as I’ve been doing for 4 years now. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I call them by their first names. It’s just too weird to call them mom/dad. I know my parent’s generation all seem to call their in-laws mom/dad, but I can’t bring myself to do that. My mom really wants my husband to call her mom, but she doesn’t think it’s disrespectful that he doesn’t.  

Post # 13
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Helper bee

First names sounds incredibly disrespectful to me, but I come from a South Asian-American culture – even calling my own parents by their first names is incredibly disrespectful in my culture. I started with “Auntie” and “Uncle” throughout engagement and first few months of marriage, and now I’m slowly transitioning to “mom and dad” but in my husband’s language. Luckily my family has a different language, so it’s different words for my biological mom and dad. But yeah it is definitely weird for me to say mom and dad. Maybe “Mr. and Mrs. So and So”? English doesn’t really offer a ton of options lol…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

First names. Calling them mom and dad would be sooooo weird!!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I have a mom and dad, and as much as I love my in-laws, I won’t call them mom and dad too. I’ll still call them by their first names. My fiancé will use first names for my parents too. 

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