Member- twinklez
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I have three bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor who’s my absolute best friend. Initially I had plan to have them all pick out a dress, but due to $$ constraints, concerns whether if the colour of custom made dresses will match my theme colour and the fact that I saw the perfect dress in the perfect colour in a store, I decided to go ahead with this dress from the store. This dress is an eggplant colour chiffon cocktail length dress with ruffle one shoulder strap. It’s the perfect colour and material for a summer wedding I thought…
When X had heard about it, she said she’s fine with whatever I pick out as long as I like it. However, as soon as she tries it on, she HATED the dress. In her communications, she repeated mentioned that the colour doesn’t match her skin tone (she’s a pale asian girl), she hates the fabric and it doesn’t look good on her (she really looks good in it and i’m not being subjective…)
I had tried to make her feel better by asking if there is anything that I can do to make the dress more to her liking, the only responses I got back from her were “The colour doesn’t match my skin tone and I don’t like the fabric, it’s not shiny enough”.
After a few days of stressful conversations back and forth between her, Maid/Matron of Honor and I, she had decided to accept the dress. However, when she tried the dress on, she had the most pouty face an adult can ever put on. I had tried my best not to acknowledge it because I know that would just result in more complaints about the dress.
Now she wants to hem the dress to half way up her thigh… my wedding will be outdoor on a rooftop (possibly windy)… I had reminded her that we would not want her dress to get caught in the wind, she said no problem… fine… it’s her call… if anything happens, it’s her problem…
We had discussed the possibility of adding some sort of embellishment onto the dress, maybe a flower of some sort. I envisioned soemthing simple and not over the top, so I thought a flower of the same colour would suits the best, it’d make the dress simple an elegant. However, again X complained that it’d be too boring…
After all of these complains… I really don’t know what to do with this girl… I’ve known since elementary school but we were never really that close but when I got engaged she basically volunteered herself to be one of the bridesmaid… I did not formally ask her but did not say otherwise which would be a mistake on my part.
Even at one year from the wedding, I’m already tired of speaking of the wedding in her presence just because I don’t want anymore complaints from her. What can I do to ease the situation? I really just want to balance between my perfect wedding and minimizing complaints from people who don’t understand my vision or even who I really am…
