Post # 17
hey! OMG! No do not change the dress. That is so not right.
I agree with everyone and say it yet again, she is being weird. I think that you should take her out for coffee and have a heart to heart. Let her know that you are very sorry that she is the only one that doesn’t enjoy the dress. Ask her if she is sure she wants to be a part of the wedding (you asked her to be a part of it hoping she can be a big support system for you, however you’re not seeing that). Ask her if there’s anything you can do. She has no choice but to give you the straight answer.
You can always give her a choice to be in your wedding or not (due to the dress). If she says it’s your wedding, then say "yes it is, thank you for being so understanding, if you are now ok with what you are wearing, lets stop talking about this topic".
BMs are there for your support! Thats why you needed them there and thats why you asked them to be in the wedding. She is nothing but a problem at the moment….
Post # 18
Thanks for the advice everyone! Now my next problem: I want my bridesmaids to wear SMALL heels. Just a little strappy sandal with a little heel. I don’t really like the way nice dresses look with flip flops or flats. Now she is refusing to wear heels even when I said, "just wear them for the ceremony and change for the reception." I even told her she could wear MY shoes (we wear the same size).
I wouldn’t be so annoyed about the shoes if she didn’t already express her divine hatred of the dress. Now I think she’s just doing it on purpose to be a pain. I know that people probably won’t notice if she’s not wearing heels…but I asked nicely and whatever happened to it being the bride’s day anyway? I thought that bridesmaids were supposed to be supportive and helpful and NICE?
I don’t think I’m going to win this one. 🙁
Post # 19
Oh man. I know you really want this girl to be involved, but I’m strongly leaning toward cutting her from the bridal party. She seems to be fighting you every step of the way about stupid stuff. How is she going to behave when you really need her help – like, if you need somebody to hold your dress while you’re peeing on the toilet? : P
Post # 20
I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times, and I only kind of liked 2 of the dresses. I have never said anything negative about them to the brides. I agree with the bees before, it comes with the territory!! Its your wedding its your day, and you chose the dress! I do agree that sometimes brides can be a little too demanding, ie. everyone must wear their hair in the exact same style (sorry to those of you who do this), but I do not think you are being unreasonable at all. Have a heart to heart with her ASAP. Good luck
Post # 21
She will just have to get over it. It already sounds like you are doing everything you can to make people happy. So it really is *YOUR* wedding! She will live.