(Closed) One Bridesmaid Hates the Dress

posted 14 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
16 posts
  • Wedding: January 2022

hey! OMG! No do not change the dress. That is so not right.

I agree with everyone and say it yet again, she is being weird. I think that you should take her out for coffee and have a heart to heart. Let her know that you are very sorry that she is the only one that doesn’t enjoy the dress. Ask her if she is sure she wants to be a part of the wedding (you asked her to be a part of it hoping she can be a big support system for you, however you’re not seeing that). Ask her if there’s anything you can do. She has no choice but to give you the straight answer. 

You can always give her a choice to be in your wedding or not (due to the dress). If she says it’s your wedding, then say "yes it is, thank you for being so understanding, if you are now ok with what you are wearing, lets stop talking about this topic".

BMs are there for your support! Thats why you needed them there and thats why you asked them to be in the wedding. She is nothing but a problem at the moment….

Post # 19
800 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh man. I know you really want this girl to be involved, but I’m strongly leaning toward cutting her from the bridal party. She seems to be fighting you every step of the way about stupid stuff. How is she going to behave when you really  need her help – like, if you need somebody to hold your dress while you’re peeing on the toilet? : P

Post # 20
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times, and I only kind of liked 2 of the dresses. I have never said anything negative about them to the brides. I agree with the bees before, it comes with the territory!! Its your wedding its your day, and you chose the dress! I do agree that sometimes brides can be a little too demanding, ie. everyone must wear their hair in the exact same style (sorry to those of you who do this), but I do not think you are being unreasonable at all. Have a heart to heart with her ASAP. Good luck

Post # 21
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She will just have to get over it. It already sounds like you are doing everything you can to make people happy. So it really is *YOUR* wedding! She will live.

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