(Closed) One bridesmaid hates the other!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who goes?
    The closer, refusing bridesmaid. : (38 votes)
    90 %
    The willing bridesmaid. : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    5072 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    the one who can’t play nicely with others gets a time out.

    what the heck are they fighting about?

    Post # 3
    578 posts
    Busy bee

    If you think you are closer to the bridesmaid giving ultimatums then think again.  What kind of friend can’t put aside their feelings for your happiness over your wedding?  If she cared about you as much as she cares about getting her way she wouldn’t be pulling this jouvenile crap.  Kick her out and enjoy your friend who seems mature about the whole thing.  Good grief.  The other one sounds like a spoiled brat.

    Post # 4
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The grown woman giving the ultimatum goes. Duh.

    Post # 5
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    Yeah, whomever thinks their issues trump the bride’s friendships goes. 

    Post # 6
    9698 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    The one stomping her feet in a tantrum needs to leave the playground. What a bitch!

    Post # 7
    782 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    musicalsteve82:  Just tell her that you are sorry she feels that way but “so and so” is my friend and it is my wedding and I have chosen her for a reason. If you really dislike her that much then I understand if you would like to drop out. Put it back on her to make the decision. Right now she is putting you in a terrible place.

    Post # 8
    539 posts
    Busy bee

    Agree with everyone else. The “closer” bridesmaid really isn’t that close if she puts her pettiness above your very special day. The willing bridesmaid has a better character– take this opportunity to get closer to her! You may find that the willing bridesmaid turns out to be a loyal, helpful and kind friend. 

    Post # 9
    7411 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What work are they doing?

    Post # 10
    1546 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would tell the refusing bidresmaid to suck it up or step down as a bridesmaid.

    What is she? 12?

    Post # 11
    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    musicalsteve82:  from your username, I assumed you are male…are you the bride or the groom? If you are the groom,  I think you should stay out of it and let the bride manage her own friendships. 

    Post # 12
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee

    dont reward bad behavior

    Post # 13
    10978 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    As far as I would be concerned neither one.  If the threatening Bridesmaid or Best Man decided to step down, that would be  her choice and she would know how sad it made me that she felt she had no other choice. 

    However, I’m confused by what you mean when you say they have to “work” together.  Their only obligation is to show up and stand by your side on your wedding day. Anything else is totally optional on their part. 

    Post # 14
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    weddingmaven:  “I’m confused by what you mean when you say they have to “work” together.”


    Post # 15
    46972 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    musicalsteve82:  So, if  the refusing bridesmaid is your Fiance, is the other bridesmaid the single woman you are close to, that your Fiance want you to drop?

    I can see how this could be difficult for your Fiance.

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