(Closed) One Christmas tradition that I am completely against

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


Post # 4
1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I told my SO that I was not a fan at all and that if we had to participate, our kid could bring one gift to grandma’s house to open – but the rest are going to be done in the privacy of our own home. 

I think that is a fair compromise.  

Post # 5
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My family does something like this. My entire family/extended family gathers at my grandmother’s every single year, and well all exchange gifts, adults included. I’m actually really attached to the tradition now and some of my fondest memories are of Christmas at my grandma’s.

That being said, I don’t think your concerns are unfounded.

By the time me and my younger brother came along, there were only two other kids in the family, my cousins who are around our age. So there were only four kids to worry about presents for.

All of our relatives were very careful to make sure we were gifted equally- sometimes we’d even all get the same thing in a different color.

Post # 6
3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t call it “horrible”, but it is a recipe for disaster for sure.  i wouldn’t want my Christmas to go down this way either.

Post # 7
4355 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I get what your saying but I’d try not to get upset about it.  Our family tradition is that we don’t open gifts until the afternoon.  Every family is different. When you have your own children you can make your own traditions 🙂

Post # 8
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@cali_cat:  meh. it’s their traditions. I think kids accept whatever they grow up with as ok. I always got jump ropes and books while my brother got expensive gifts and I never noticed. I think you should look at the love a kid feels being around the whole family and not focus on the price of the gifts.

Post # 10
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I know in my family this most likely wouldn’t be an issue as there’s not very many of us and we’re all the same income level mostly. But I can see how this can be kind of annoying if the family is huge and everyone is on different pages, so to speak. I wouldn’t say this is a horrible tradition – I think it’s very sweet for the whole family to be together – but there are certainly other times on Christmas Day for the family to get together that don’t involve opening presents. 

How about a new tradition? On Christmas (Day, Eve, whatever) everyone goes over to the grandparents’ house and opens the presents that the grandparents bought themselves for the kids and then all the other mom and dad presents stay at home for opening later in front of just the parents and siblings? 

Post # 11
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@KateByDesign:  I totally agree. I would say 1 or 2 special presents could go over. Not expensive, but not cheap either.

Fiance and I come from very different backgrounds in terms of Christmas. It actually caused the biggest disagreement in pre-cana (it was part of the top 5 fights you don’t think to have in advance). Santa doesn’t wrap presents at his house! They leave piles. You can’t open piles. Your siblings can steal from your pile. Plus, his parents used to sleep through Christmas morning and the kids would play themselves. I cannot imagine it. He gets to dictate Christmas eve, but we will be watching our children unwrap presents!

Post # 14
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When I was a kid we always had Santa come at our parents house and then went to Grandparents to open up presents with grandparent/aunts/uncles/cousins. There was plenty of gift giving going around, and there were only 4 kids. I can only imagine what a cluster it would be if all the presents were opened at once. 

Even with me and the hubs we have our “own” Christmas before cycling around the various family affairs. 

Post # 15
7683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cali_cat:  I totally agree. If they get upset, well bad luck, you have your traditions too.

Post # 16
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s ok to be upset because to me it’s not just “oh well that’s their tradition” if you are bringing your own kids into it.  You won’t want to have your kid be the only one not to attend, and you don’t want your kid to feel shitty that santa or others didn’t spend hundred of dollars on them.  I think it’s ok to be concerned about the tradition because it WILL affect you and your future kids.  I don’t see why you can’t have them open their gifts with you at home and bring one along to open with the family.  That way they can have the experience with everyone else but know that they got their other gifts before hand.

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