(Closed) One Cooks, One Cleans?

posted 8 years ago in Home
  • poll: Do you and your partner have a policy that one person cooks and one does dishes?
    Yes : (64 votes)
    44 %
    No : (81 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    @Entangled: Yes, that’s our policy!  The exception to this is on days that I work & he happens to have the day off.  If he grills for us on one of those days, he often offers to clean up as well (the grill & the dishes) because he’s had the day off & I was working. 

    In general, I love the idea of one cooks and the other cleans.  Usually my husband relaxes while I cook and then I go relax and get some alone time while he cleans up.  Works out well!

    Post # 4
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yep, we have that “rule.” Of course we are allowed to bend the rules. Sometimes if hubby has been at work all day and I had had the day off then I’ll go ahead and do the dishes too. Or the other day he had to study for midterms so I told him not to worry about it. It’s generally pretty even though.

    Post # 5
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I always cook, he always does the dishes. Its not so much a who likes to do what thing as the fact that he CAN’T cook. 🙂 

    Other chores…

    Me- grocery shopping, laundry

    Him- garbage, yardwork/driveway care

    We clean together every weekend. I definitely spend more time on grocery shopping and laundry than he does on garbage and yard stuff, but it works for us. I hate doing those things, so I’m just glad I don’t have to do them. Also, I have a lot more time than he does because he works more and is also studying. 

    Post # 6
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The couple of times Darling Husband is home and we eat dinner together, he does do the dishes which I am grateful for. He hates to cook so for us it works out.

    Post # 6
    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We do both together. We both hate to do the dishes, so the compromise is that we’ll cook something together and do the dishes as we go. We’ll talk as we do dishes together.

    Post # 8
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I cook mostly every night, so he does the dishes. Works out great for us. He actually is the one who said that since I cook, he should do dishes back when I moved in a few years back. It works out great. All the other chores, we share pretty equally except I do the grocery shopping. We both do laundry, clean the house, etc.

    Post # 9
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Yep, we have the strict, one person cooks the other cleans 🙂

    Then we have our chores divided by “time” so for example, it takes him about 1 hour each week to do yard stuff, and it takes me about 1 hour each week to sweep & clean the wood floors. So these are our weekly chores.

    For daily chores, I unload the dishwasher or drainboard & he takes out the trash in the whole house (bathroom trash cans & kitchen)

    I also deep clean the kitchen each week & he cleans the pool.

    The rest of the house: bathrooms, kitchen floor, dusting, vacuum rooms, are traded off every 2 weeks.

    Post # 10
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I do all the cooking, my Darling Husband can barely boil water (thanks, MIL).  So that’s how it usually breaks out, I cook, he cleans, but its not really a household ‘policy’.  If he’s working late in his home office, or busy I might just clean up. But usually not 🙂

    Post # 11
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Not all the time. I usually end up cooking and then we both do the dishes. Sometimes if I’m really tired, he’ll just do them himself. But I usually end up helping even though I don’t have to.

    Post # 12
    4162 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We don’t have set rules, we just do what needs to be done, regardless of who cooks/cleans.  We both work full time jobs, and I have 2 part time jobs also, so if I have to run to my next job, Fiance will have dinner waiting for me, and same with if he needs to go out after work, etc.

    Post # 13
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We do have that rule, but with a little twist: I cook every night and he reads aloud (we read a ton of books this way, and its really fun!). My dad taught me to clean while I cook, so I almost always get all the dishes done while cooking, except the pans I’m using (and sometimes I get those done when I plate everything up), and obviously the dishes we use to eat. Dishes generally take him less than 10 minutes, and sometimes I help too if I didn’t get the majority of them done while cooking.

    Other chores – we team-clean the house every Sunday. I do: floors – sweeping, vacuum and swiffering and dusting. He does the bathrooms – we split the kitchen.

    He takes out the trash, I take out the recycling on trash day.

    He generally cleans the litterbox, but we each make sure its cleaned every day.

    Post # 14
    81 posts
    Worker bee

    We have a very involved system where one person does kitchen and vaccuming each week and the other does the bathroom and dusting. We both do laundry, recycling and daily dishes. He takes out the trash. I do weird deep cleaning (washing windows, etc.). It works for us.

    Post # 15
    49 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Depends on the night but I volunteer to clean if he cooks!

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