(Closed) One day…

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I felt this way forever!  I hated going to work.  Ever since I was a kid I just always felt demotivated, there was never anything I really felt was a calling.  I think this stemmed from my parents’ way of raising me though.  They were the stereotypical asian “you be doctor or lawyer” type parents.  I always like art, but was always discouraged by them to pursue that field (i.e. I was forced to take orchestra and play the cello, even though I wanted to do ceramics as my elective).  It wasn’t until much later in my 20’s that I was finally able to take art classes.

Now I don’t work.  I had to move states to do it, but I love doing art, in my house, on my own time.  I’m lucky that I have an Fiance who can support us.  I don’t mind moving away from my friends and family (esp with facebook) since it gives me the freedom to do what I really want to do; but, there is always going to be some sort of sacrifice involved.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@housebee:  (asian accent) even lawyer now not so good. doctor and engineer only good.

I totally know how you feel though. I’m Asian, and my father basically raised me to be an engineer. I enjoy my job, however, but I don’t know how long that will last. After a while it just gets so monotonous.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@greeneyedmoon:  ::raises hand:: One day, when Fiance and I have a house, I’m going to quit my job and open up my own in-home daycare and put my early childhood development degree to good use!

I miss going to work and making a differnce in someone’s life. Even though we made less money, it made life meaningful

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, but that’s only because I’d much rather not have to get up at 6AM, scrape off my car, drive, get dressed, etc. Being able to wake up naturally and sit in pajamas all day, drinking coffee and playing on Pinterest would be so much better.

And I actually like my job (just wish I wasn’t underpaid!).

Post # 9
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6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Everyday..

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Me too… I feel like my talent and creativity is being drained from me.  I truly believe the saying, “if you dont use it, youll lose it” applies to creativity.

My dream would be to open my own antique/vintage store and paint and restore furniture.  My FH says that I can do whatever I want… but I have to make enough to pay for my “extras” – new car, clothes, etc.  I dont know if I am willing to sacrifice all of that yet. 

Until then, I am a slave to my calculator (I’m an accountant.)

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@strawbs:  LOL too funny, but that is so my parents.  You were actually a good kid, I just kept failing/ditching the classes until they finally agreed to not put me in them anymore lol.  I ended up getting an early child education cert, but I didn’t really care for that either.

@greeneyedmoon:  Yeah, I guess I never really wanted kids, so it wasn’t an issue for us.  Kids are way expensive though, especially if you want them to do sports, extra curricular activities, etc.  Our most expensive hobbies sort of pay for themselves (we raise geckos and sell off the extra feeder bugs).  It just depends on your lifestyle.  Have you thought of ways to make money doing art?  Like teaching art classes or selling your work?  I’ve sold a few of my pie plates before, and those aren’t too expensive to make.  In order for me to stay home we had to move from Mission Viejo, CA (super expensive) to Charlotte, NC (very affordable).  I hate to say it, but it seems like the backlash of women’s lib is that now both parents usually have to work.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Im probably in the minority here… I wanted to be a lawyer so badly. I still do. I actually have a nice chunk of schooling out of the way for working towards what I wanted to end up in. I had my son though (and fell madly in love of course!) when I was 20. I got offered this job im in now at 21 and this job gives me job security like none other, a fantastic income, great benefits, stability and just the ability to provide an over all great life for my son, myself and Fiance. FI is a mechanic and while he makes great money, my income is just something we are not willing to go without. I could go back to school but my loans are already paid off and school would be so incredibly expensive for me. I get 80% tuition reimbursement through my job but I would still have to pay out of pocket first and that would really affect our everyday life. Not to mention how much I would be away from my son, which is the main reason why I just won’t do it. I didn’t every see myself as very creative or anything but I always wanted to be a lawyer, that was my dream. But on the upside, I got a new dream, my future with my son and Fiance. thats enough for me even though the lawyer thing probably won’t work out.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@greeneyedmoon:  Maybe open up your own studio and teach?  I have no idea what the start up costs of that would be though.  It seems like the amount of satisfaction you get from what you do is inversely proportional to the amount of money you’re paid.  Makes me wish we could just go back to batering.

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