(Closed) One entree option?

posted 7 years ago in Food
  • poll: What should we do?
    Mixed plate - time saver : (21 votes)
    24 %
    RSVP option - I'd be willing to wait in order to be served a whole fish : (54 votes)
    62 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
    I'm veg/vegan...please give me ideas! : (9 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Definitely have it on the RSVP. Not everyone likes beef and fish so if they don’t they’re only eating half a meal (which is worse when you’re hungry than a whole meal 5 minutes later I think). Also, ask your venue about their veggie options. I’ve never heard of a caterer that didn’t have a go-to vegetarian dish.

    Post # 4
    3942 posts
    Honey bee

    It’s your wedding, not your planners wedding.

    if your wedding planner is confused by guests choosing one of two options, then that is a little odd. Many people dont like beef (myself) or fish so you could have a lot of food go to waste.

    Also, you dont have to write out the entree choice. Use color coded stickers on the back of the placecards so the waiters know what food choice they ordered. Small, easy, and discreet.

    Post # 5
    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Too confusing? That’s what everyone does. Not sure how the standard practice would be confusing to a caterer that’s been doing weddings a long time?

    Also, a vegetarian/vegan won’t know to put that on the RSVP if you don’t ask for it to be put on the RSVP. People suck at RSVPing. Assumptions shouldn’t be made – everything should be in black and white. It sounds like your wedding planner has never been married and/or isn’t totally with it, and/or is concerned about making her own job easier at the expense of your guests, frankly.

    If I waited till 9pm for dinner and then only got served a little fish and a little beef, i’d be pretty upset – I don’t like beef and i’d be STARVING the rest of the night!

    Post # 6
    3696 posts
    Sugar bee

    Your wedding planner sounds like s/he wants to make life easy for him/herself more than to make the wedding nice for your guests. Just sayin’.

    Post # 7
    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Why can’t you serve a third veggie option?  Is money the issue?

    Post # 8
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t understand what your wedding planner is talking about.  Every wedding I’ve been to has had a meal choise on the RSVP and then the choice is on the place card (this is how our wedding will be too).  Why would this take longer?

    Post # 9
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If there was no entree choice on the RSVP, I would assume the food would be served buffet/stations style. A vegetarian assuming the same would probably not say anything because at most buffets there’s a meatless pasta dish and meatless sides, so they would probably figure they’d be covered.

    I am as confused as the other posters about how an experienced planner could be befuddled by the procedure of offering guests an entree choice. This is totally standard.

    Post # 10
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It seems to me that the problem here isn’t what your guests are eating, it’s that your wedding planner can’t figure out how to manage RSVPs with entree selections. 


    I picked the veg/vegan option. In general, I think it’s best to come up with at least one option that will hit most “other” dietary requirements, like some kind of gluten free, vegan choice. This is something you should talk to your caterer about, but since you’re going with fish/steak, maybe something like grilled veg with a smoked tofu filet and balsamic reduction? 


    Post # 11
    6739 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Personally, I would love a mixed plate option, but I am one of those poeple who likes to eat a little bit of everything and not a lot of any one thing and I eat pretty much everything. 

    I don’t think it’s too confusing to have the people select in advance what meal they want.  This way, the venue will know in advance approx how many filet mignons vs fish and they should be able to plan accordingly.  The only thing I’d be concerned with are people who will appear at the wedding and decide they no longer want what they chose and just try to change it to something else.  Hopefully, that won’t be a real issue. 

    As far as veg/vegan people, if they’re going to be allowed to put it on the RSVP card, then the option should just be there for them and the venue should hopefully be able to accommodate that. 

    9pm isn’t THAT late for dinner.. I’ve had dinner served at 10-11pm before.  That was late. 

    Post # 12
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Would it be possible to have 3 options? To include at least a veg choice (offering vagan is likely more trouble than it’s worth unless you think you’ll have a large # of people wanting it). 

    Honestly, I think people would rather have the extra wait, because personally, I would pick the fish and not touch the fillet– meaning that it would go to waste. It’s a little more work with the RSVP, but it’s certainly not unreasonable. 

    Post # 13
    5493 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’ve been to one wedding where there was only one enree choice.  It was chicken wellington. I personally thought it was delicious but a lot of people at my table groaned when they saw it because there were portions of the meal they couldn’t eat.  

    When there was no entree choice on the RSVP they assumed it would be buffet so they didnt specify a dietary restriction because they figured they could pick and chose from the buffet.  Instead they couldn’t eat their whole meal or could only eat a portion of it.

    Definitely provide entree choices.   

    Post # 14
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Maybe the planner meant that it’s just plain easier to NOT have to track everyone’s menu selections.  And by easier, I mean easier on the bride (or maybe in this case, the planner.)

    I’m thinking she doesn’t want the added work of tracking this.

    Every venue I’ve ever visited (oh yes, there have been lots!) had vegetarian options.  If you aren’t going to have the whole: mark your selection, beef, chicken or vegetarian  just spread the word that if someone wants a veggie dish, let you know!

    Post # 15
    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    it sounds like your wedding planner doesn’t know how to expedite the food options on the rsvp.  trust me it is very easy.

    i gave my guests 3 choices:  beef, chicken and vegetarian.  all meals were also gluten-free for my family.

    on the rsvp’s i had a breakdown like this:

    M_________________  (  ) accepts; (  ) declines

    (  ) beef; (  ) chicken; (  ) vegetarian

    M_________________  (  ) accepts; (  ) declines

    (  ) beef; (  ) chicken; (  ) vegetarian

    i had enough spaces on the rsvp for the number of guests invited on that invite.  by having it broken down like this, i knew exactly which guest ordered which meal.  no guess work.

    for the place cards, i had each one printed with the name of the guest and had small pink or black flower cut outs to indicate beef or chicken (no one ordered veg or i would have had green too).  the small flower detail was pretty so i put it on the middle back and on the upper righthand side of the front.  that way it was easy for the serving staff. 

    to make it easy, i made a pile for beef and a pile for chicken and concentrated on one colour at a time so i didn’t screw up.

    then i separated the placecards by table # and in order of seating going clockwise from 12 o’clock.

    when giving my venue the final numbers, i also gave them a floorplan of the tables and seating.  they were setting up the tables, not me.  i also gave them a breakdown of each table and the number of meals per table:

    head table:  3 beef, 1 chicken

    table 2:  5 beef, 3 chicken

    table 3:  4 beef, 4 chicken

    you get the idea.  by doing this, the service was flawless.  the expediter from the kitchen could make sure the exact number of meal choices were going to each table.

    the venue was so incredibly grateful for my organizational skills.  they now want to ensure all of their brides follow the same format.

    it sounds like a lot but it was so easy to do.




    Post # 16
    530 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MissNumbers:  Your wedding planner sounds lazy. I’ve never been to a wedding where you didn’t have a meal option.  A lot of people don’t eat red meat and a lot of people don’t eat seafood so it’s really weird to mix those 2 things on one plate in my opinion… I like both so I wouldnt mind, but I think people having the choice would be better. 

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