(Closed) One invitation per family?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If they live with their parents, than I would put them on their parents invitation. If they are adults that have their own place you should send them their own invite.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I did one invite per houshold to save money. = )

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We did one invite per household for the cousins.  We had no complaints!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree.  I did the save the dates by person because the cost wasn’t that much.  For invitations I’m going by family even if they don’t live in the same house unless they live in another city or live with a significant other who we are inviting.  My family is big but close and I don’t forsee many problems.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Proper etiquette would be to send them their own note.  You are really not supposed to add the words “and guest” but be in contact with the guest.  If they are your bridesmaids, they would probably appreciated the separate invitation, so that it is their keepsake for a scrapbook or photo album of their own. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If they live in the same house I am only sending one invitation.  It is saving me like 10 extra invitations!  Call me rude 🙂

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In my opinion, for your family members who live separately they need a separate invite.  I haven’t lived at my parents house for 10 years, and if I were to be thrown on their invitation, I would be offended.  I don’t live there!!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We only had a couple that lived with their parents.  For the STD’s I sent the cousins their own because we had so many extras.  I had planned on sending them their own invite but we sent theirs with their parents and got no complaints. 

I’d say you are okay to send those that live at home 1 but for those that don’t live at home, send them their own.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If they don’t live with their parents, they should get a seperate invitation. My cousin sent one invitation to my parents with their names and family, I hadn’t lived there for about 5 years and was pretty offended and didn’t feel like I was actually invited to their wedding.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t be offended if I was lumped in to my parents invitation. I would, however, feel like a 12 year old.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Invitations should be sent to households, not families.  If someone no longer lives with their parents, they should get a seperate invitation.  (I considered kids in college as still living with parents).  Also, I’d say that even if they are still living at home, members of your wedding party should get their own invitations.  They are a special part of your life and you’ve invited them to be a special part of your day – they deserve their own invitation.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I did a case-by-case type of thing. I gave most adults their own invitation, even if they lived in their parents’ house, unless either their parents insisted I send the invitation to their address when I asked for addresses (in which case, whatever), and when I totally ran out of invitations and two sets of cousins all ended up on one invitation (one set I didn’t think would be offended, and the other were all college-age boys and I figured their parents would be better able to rsvp for them anyway).

Personally, it always made me roll my eyes when I was invited to a family wedding on my parents’ invitation when I haven’t lived with them (or even in the same county) in over ten years, but I’m a stickler, and not everyone is. If I were to get an invitation addressed to my parents now that I’m married, I don’t think I would even bother going (I’d interpret it as them not really caring if I were there or not).

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