Post # 17
@bluestockingbride: Congrats! One of my good friends hyphenated, as did her husband and they’re both still super happy with that decision five years later. He took some crap for it (from idiots) and had a harder time getting the legal change, but says it was totally worth it.
In my case (also on track for a PhD) I’m just keeping mine because I don’t particularly want FI’s last name and he has no intention of changing his. Happily, he also has no issue with my decision. Something about us being equal partners…
Post # 17
My fiance also wanted to change his name when I was considering adding his name current last name as a second middle name, but we decided that we were too lazy for either of us to change anything. I wouldn’t want to take his name as a last name because 1) the practice seems outdated and sexist 2) I’ve been published under my current name and 3) nobody knows how to pronounce Eifert correctly…
Post # 18
That’s amazing – what a great guy. He clearly understands how much this means to you and is willing to compromise to make you both happy. That’s the key to success!
I have a couple of friends who did the same thing and it works great for them. My Fiance said he would be willing to do that too, or pick a whole new name entirely! Haven’t decided yet but we’ll work it out. Congrats!
Post # 19
bluestockingbride: I love that so much!! I wish my Fiance would do this for me 🙁
magicmoments: that is so interesting about the “controlling” comment…. Though sadly not surprising, I suppose
CakeyP: ours hyphenated would include mine (v complicated foreign name) and be 5 syllables and 16 letters
Post # 20
That’s so cute!
i have friends that did this. They weren’t married (planning to) but did the joint double barrelled names change by dead poll. They were travelling the world together for a year and it just made everything so much easier to have the same joint names, especially in countries where it would be easier to ‘appear’ to be husband and wife. When they did get married a year or so after their travels, they had no paperwork to faff about with – easy!
id like to double barrel but our surnames are so similar it would look and sound daft.
Post # 21
Is this the game where everything is made up and the points don’t matter?
JK, that is really cool though. Never heard of a guy taking the woman’s name before. I guess he really wants you to share a last name, even if it is not his. That’s so sweet!
Post # 22
How freakin’ awesome! Love this!
Post # 23
Wow. I love this!!! Good for you and for him. I’m hoping my situation turns out similar. Cheers to you BOTH!
Post # 24
bluestockingbride: Just to clarify… are you dropping your middle name, or do you have a two-word, non-hyphenated (funny how non-hyphenated has a hyphen in it…) last name?
Mary Jane Doe Jones & John Michael Doe Jones?
Mary Doe Jones & John Doe Jones?
Just curious! 🙂
Post # 25
bluestockingbride: that’s amazing. Yayyy you for finding a gem!!! 🙂
Post # 26
sleepypup: Ha! No one knows how to say Luelf either, but I love the name anyways. 🙂 Way better than my maiden name of Price. Yup. Bob Barker jokes alllll the time.
THIS IS AWESOME, OP!