LEAVE HIM NOW.
Let me just say the “adustment period” saying is crap. Total crap.
Did you two live together before you got married? How long were you together before you got married?
I was in a similar situation with my first marriage.
After my ex and I got back from our honeymoon everything changed. He was awful to me, we fought all the time, he threw things at me. It was nasty. I would cry every single day and drive home from work with dred and exhaustion. We did our seperate things, he played video games and I watched Netflix. I cooked dinner but we ate at different times. He didn’t lift a finger around the house and I did all the work. The list goes on.
I would think every day this is NOT how newlyweds are to be but everyone says the first year of marriage is so hard.
Let me tell you…unless you never lived together beforehand to learn one another’s habits IT SHOULD NOT BE HARD!
If you truly love that person, are committed, and look out for their very best interest then it should not be hard. If you love someone you never want them to hurt or be sad. You should take their feelings in account with EVERY SINGLE THING that you do.
If you love someone you don’t tell them to shut up, you don’t raise a hand to them, and you DO NOT pressure them to have sex. END OF STORY.
My ex and I were not even married a year when we filed for divorce. It sucked, it was embarrassing, I was ashamed and felt like I failed, I cried my eyeballs out on many occasions. It was exhausting selling our home, dividing our things. But it was the best deicsion I have ever made in my entire life.
I am now married to the most amazing man. That made me realize that what I thought was uncondiational, marriage material, forever type of love…was NOT.
Bee, love is so tricky. It makes you do things and put up with things that you shouldn’t. Even if it is really isn’t true love, the thought of it can make you do some crazy things.
Leave him. Now. Go live your life, love yourself, find someone that will treat you like the amazing individual that you are. That will listen to you talk about whatever it is you want to talk about while he is watching sports because he wants to hear everything that comes out of your mouth because he loves you dearly and wouldn’t think of telling you to ‘shut up’.
Coming from someone that THOUGHT she knew what love was, made excuses for the person she married, made excuses for herself and why she was so unhappy and withdrawn…it is not worth another second. And one day you will find someone that will show you what real love is. I sure did and it makes me think back to those times and wonder how I even lasted as long as I did.
Good luck, Bee! Know your worth!