(Closed) One month out, reception site changing things up on us!

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re in suck a pickle.

Honestly, go with your heart on this one. This is your one day to celebrate, so if the hour is important, definitely try to talk to your current venue. I would probably go this route first, because if you’re able to work out a deal with your current venue, you won’t have to go through the hassle of telling your guests later. 

I would stress the type of crowd which will be attending to try to assure the venue that it would be in their interest to keep it a private party for another hour. Addtionally, I would show them the correspondence to prove that you were supposed to have a midnight contract.

If that falls through, you have a back up and I would try to get the word out as soon as possible that there is a change in venue. I’m sure your wedding party and close friends would be more than happy to help get the word out if need be. 

Post # 4
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193 posts
Blushing bee

Wow – this is rough.

If it were me, I would tell them that I want to sign a contract detailing how much they’re guaranteed at the bar and that the private party will run until 12pm. I assume the only thing they’re worried about is losing money, right? That’s exactly what guarantees are for.

Otherwise, and again this is just my opinion, but if they’re not willing to sign a contract then I’d go through the hassle of switching to the other place. They sound wishy-washy, and if you know you have a good thing at the other place then this place needs to step up and show that they value your business (i.e., money).

This is a really sucky situation. I think it would be in your best interest to stop thinking about *them* doing *you* a favor – there are reasons that restaurants and bars LOVE to agree to host events – they make a fortune! You are doing *them* a favor, and everyone will be protected if you sign a contract with a minimum bar expense.

Good luck! I hope you get it worked out in your favor.

Post # 5
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you really need to decide how much of a hassle it would be to move the venue again or just keep it; however, you said there’s an open bar and if people start to show up who are just people and not invited to the wedding, then you might be paying for their alcohol and not even know it.  Get a contract no matter where you go now.  That’s the only thing that can save your butt.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I agree with Curlysue…whatever you decide, get a contract with that place. At this point, what is to stop the current place from letting people in at 10 if they feel like you’re not bringing in enough money? I do think there’s a chance you are blowing the one hour out of proportion (which I completely understand doing, by the way), and at the end you might say "oh well, we just stayed at the bar partying until 2 am and no one noticed!", but you really don’t want to take the chance of regretting not having it.

Honestly, if I were you, I would go to the place that’s on the invitation with your documentation and tell them you chose their bar because you thought you could have it until 12. If that’s not the case, then you may have to take your business elsewhere. Who knows, maybe they will prefer to have guaranteed money until 12 than having who-knows-what from bar-goers all night long.

Post # 7
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it’s not very cool of this guy to change the plan on you at all.  I would have whipped out the original correspondence and nipped this in the bud… but since that time has come and gone, I would see if I could adjust to the idea of sharing the last hour of the festivities with the public (honestly, it seems kind of fun to me…) or ending at 11.  Most wedding guests start heading home before midnight anyway (except for the die hard friends) and are the people who would stick around going to mind whether there are other people at that point?

I say it’s not worth the hassle to move things again!  And getting a contract so that things don’t change again is a fabulous idea!

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