(Closed) One month to go and the Pastor is MIA…long

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@basketballwifetobe:  that is far too risky.  What if he’s jetlagged when/if he comes back?  See about talking with who you originally wanted.  At this point, ANYONE is better than your childhood pastor.  I understand your mom’s sentimental reasons and all, but if you’re not important to him, why should he be to you?

Post # 5
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2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think at this point you need to contact the other Pastor. To me, the ceremony is about the couple, so whatever parents may want is irrelevant. Get you mom to understand that this is has been way too stressful and that this is your decision to make in the end.

Post # 9
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@basketballwifetobe:  One more thing:  honestly though, I know your mom really cares about this, but even if he does show up, it sounds like his hearts isn’t in it, which can ruin your whole experience anyway.  It’s more than simply being reliable.  He needs to be supportive and actually happy for you two.  My fiance went to a wedding where the pastor kept talking about divorce rates and how the couple’s marriage is doomed anyway.  =/

Post # 12
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Follow your gut, he has shown with his past behavior that he will have issues with time, and he doesn’t seem that invested. Tell your mom you would no problems inviting him the wedding, and maybe have him say a blessing before dinner. The last thing anyone would want is having a rougue paster on the wedding day. It is not worth the stress!

Post # 13
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Contact the other pastor and see if he would be willing to marry you/do premarital classes. If so, dump the other pastor. You gave him enough of a chance.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Good luck, if you mom is anything like mines, I would think about what I want to say. Also tell her you already made up your mind about the issue, also ask her if he can take part in another way!

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