Post # 1
I’m planning and paying for most of the wedding which is a six hour flight from where I currently live (getting married in my hometown). This has been a little harder of a task but manageable. Last Christmas break I secured a recommended DJ and put $250 down on a $1250 all night package- I don’t even know if this is a lot, but I took him. I asked for him to send me invoice, or email me, and he assured me such. I did not get this which I should have hastled him more on, but trusted him.
So I get to planning other things, being DJ checkbox marked, and now that it is coming closer to the wedding- 26 days to be exact, I called him last week, to just say “hey we’re on for 7.10.10, when can we chat about the details of the day, song requests, etc…”. He did not call me back. I texted him, and he texted “yes we are on”. So today I call him b/c I not only “need to be on” but I need clear communication.
I call him today and he glosses me over with his smooth DJ talking voice and says “yeah just call me a week before you get to town and we’ll set a date then to go over things”. I’m say “no we need to make a date now”. So when I go to set the date he tells me “…..(long pause and almost an oops sigh)OH! I’m out the whole week in Hawaii- getting back the morning July 10. “BUt we’re still on”.
So this leaves me feeling very sketchy about him, and a bit worried. I don’t want a jet lagged dude who’s plane might be late, just was on vacation, doing my later in the day wedding. And he almost (hate to say it) is obnoxious on the phone, overspeaking loudly when I talk. I’m soooo freakin’ out, b/c I wanted a DJ for my reception. I’ve put out two calls to local DJ’s but no return calls yet.
Anyone experience this, or any advise? I have no signed contract at this point, which is VERY BAD! I know. I have contracts with all others. I’m willing to just eat my deposit for being so stupid.
Post # 3
Honestly I would be worried you are being scammed. He didn’t give you a reciept for the deposit. He won’t communicate. When you finally talked he tried to put you off by not setting a date and when that didn’t work brought up being out of town. I don’t know if this guy is going to show. I’d arrange a back up or even an alternative plan.
Post # 4
Yeah. I agree. I just don’t like working with noncommunicative flakes. My fiance stated after I got off the phone, “He doesn’t know who he’s messing with”. He’s the only one without a website however I was given his name as top three DJ’s by well established Caterer, and when I called the first DJ I really wanted he recommended this guy since he was already taken.
SOOOO if he flakes his reputation is going down- but doesn’t help me when I have a quiet wedding reception.
I think I’m going to look for a new DJ and if secured cancel this other dude.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t freak out, but it is worth being cautious. Here’s my advice:
– call around and find someone who is still available.
– propose to the available person that you will pay them $100 retainer to just be available just in case. As in, this new DJ must step in and play if the other guy is a no show.
– if the other guy shows, the new DJ can keep the money just for being available as your back up.
– if the other guy doesn’t show, the new Dj will step in and get fully paid.
Now, if you like the new DJ, you could just eat the deposit. Not a terrible idea.
Post # 6
Okay go read my post about Bad Wedding Vendor need advice. This sounds just like what went on and I wish that I would have canceled the vendor and re-booked.
My rental company (tableware and chairs) gave me the complete run-around. I had to beg for a contract to be sent to me. The week before the wedding they called to ask if I still needed 240 chairs because they only owned 200 and that meant they would have to buy more. I’m yes, I have 240 guests and need 240 chairs. Then the week of the wedding called to let me know they delivered the items but realized they were short on the glasses and would I need those. Umm yes! Then the week after my wedding they charged us an extra $500 for cleaning/misc fees.
Also, my DJ was shady like this guy kept telling me he was going to send me a cd of music to listen to for the ceremony music. Never got the cd. We called and emailed him several times too to confirm music and such. When all was said and done we made several cd’s of ceremony music that we downloaded from ITunes. We mailed him a copy and then brought two copies with us. Glad we did because the guy didn’t show-up. The venue had to call and find a replacement. The replacement guy did fine but partly because we had the music laid out on a cd.
So my point is this… if you are feeling the least bit uneasy about a vendor then change it now. It is better to have lost the deposit money then to go through the headache we’ve experienced.
Post # 7
I agree. Get a new DJ booked if you can. Try to get the deposit back from this other DJ, but even if that doesn’t end up happening, at least you will have a fun, dance-filled wedding day and that is much more worth it than the stress of a possible no-show DJ!
Post # 8
Today has been quite a rollercoaster of a day- juggling work and phone calls amongst DJ’s, fiance, and family- bicoastal with 3 hr time differential without creating riffs in the DJ word. My hometown is quite small.
Good news: I got a new DJ with a reputable newer but established DJ company in town. DJ has 6-7 yrs under his belt.
Bad news: Had to break the “Sorry I am canceling you as my DJ” news to my old DJ- and he did not take it well. After 13 minutes of hearing his venting, and my discussion over proper business (especially with a bride!!!) the call ended, with me feeling aweful.
He called 10 minutes later to ask for my address to mail my deposit- that was very nice. So thank you old DJ for establishing back some credibility. I now hope that he gets a new 7.10.10 job or he extends his vacation with family- or takes some timeout to call other brides.
I’m glad I’m going with the new people for peace of mind, even though they are $150 more than my old guy. But at this point I’m just thankful.
Thanks for everyones advise! It really helped me! 🙂 LESSON- Do not be bullied out of contracts! I should have demanded such way back when.
I’m soooo exhausted. Tomorrow will be a new day!