Post # 1
I came across <a href=”http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/party-invitation-requests-cash-gift-for-engaged-couple-should-i-do-it/article12382170/”>this article</a> in one of the main Canadian national newspapers today and was shocked to see so many lapses of etiquette in one article: The bride’s parents hosting a party that sounds like a shower since gifts of money were requested, asking for cash on the party invitation, the columnist mentioning that when he got married he asked his guests to contribute to his honeymoon fund (which I know is a sensitive issue on WB) and the columnist stating that they mentioned gifts on their wedding invite. There are probably more too, hehe.
Miss Manners would have a field day with this, haha!
Anyway, the crux of the article is whether the party guests should feel obligated to bring a cash gift. I think I know how the Hive will vote on this, but the article may be an interesting topic of discussion nonetheless:)
Post # 3
That’s a little ridiculous. It’s almost like an engagement party…but not. And not appropriate, IMO. They don’t even have a date set?? I’ve seen some pre-wedding events that get out of control (2 each of engagement parties, lingerie showers, bridal showers, jack and jill showers…how many opportunities do you need to ask for sh*t??) but this seems outright rude to me. I would definitely not attend.
That being said, in my area couples almost ALWAYS include registry info with their invites. Maybe not right ON them, but you definitely get the info with the invite. I don’t find that rude, but I’m a little iffy on asking for cash outright. Even if you have a massive registry, a lot of people will still choose to give cash. I don’t get why people insist they HAVE to tell people on the invitations they want cash, as if no one ever gives cash at weddings unless they’re told o.0
Post # 4
Soooo many issues here.
1) this is almost like an engagement party, which typically is not a real gift giving party.
2) if you’re going to host a party where the main intent is to provide gifts to someone it should never be hosted by an immediate family member.
3) you should never invite people that will not be invited to the wedding itself to any pre-wedding event ESPECIALLY a gift giving party.
Unless I was extremely close with these people I would decline.
Post # 5
@capitalbee: I agree, so many pre-wedding events can get out of control. And it’s almost like in this situation they’re inventing yet another pseudo wedding shower party in which ti get even more gifts. And to insist that the guests give cash? To a pre-wedding party that isn’t even a shower, and even then it’s questionable, IMO. I wouldn’t attend either. I’d choose to send a card or something instead.
Yeah, I’ve noticed that things in Ontario seem to be done a little different than things in other parts of Canada when it comes to weddings. For example, buck and does tend to be considered kind of inappropriate in my experience out West (BC), but that’s probably because we don’t do it here so it’s unusual to us. We also don’t tend to include registry/gift information with the invitation, so again it comes off as a little strange to us. But maybe this type of party is typical for where they live? I don’t know. But I agree with you, people will give cash if they want to give cash, they don’t need to be reminded that it’s an option, hehe.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: I agree with all of your points! It’s like Wedding What Not to Do! Even in my case, since I’ve gotten engaged, people who I won’t be inviting to my wedding (eg. co-workers) keep asking for details about my wedding, which makes me uncomfortable since I don’t really want to discuss specifics with people who won’t be invited.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@BabyCarat: Did you see the article in the Globe and Mail? http://m.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-hot-button/brides-reject-wedding-guests-gift-basket-feud-goes-viral/article12703044/?service=mobile
They seem to be posting a lot about gift ettiquette lately. In this case two brides informed the guest that their gifts were not good enough. *sigh* I think that so long as you get the person a card then that should be enough. Weddings are absolutely not fundraisers.
Post # 8
@laceydoilies: Yes, that one was SO crazy! Man, Canadian brides/grooms/parents aren’t coming off very well in these articles, hehe.