Post # 1
So one of my BM’s just planned her wedding for one week before mine. She moved it forward from a date that originally two months after because of timing conflicts with family and other wedding party members. She called me to ask how I felt about it, and I told her I was completely fine with it–which I am! I have no problem with the fact that our weddings will be close together, but now I am getting a little worried about the logistics.
The problem is, we are both in each other’s weddings, and we also “share” two other BM’s, one of whom is flying in and can’t stay the entire week between. I’m just worried that it’s going to be extremely stressful for those bridesmaids, as well as for us, the two getting married. I don’t want us all to be exhausted and stressed. Any advice? Is this a legitimate concern? What should I do?
Post # 3
@MaggieMay04: yes this is a legitimate concern. I would be pretty upset in your situation. however, you already were given your chance to tell her how you feel (she called and asked) and you said it was fine. There is not much you can do about it now. Unless you are close enough that you feel you can ask if she could push it back or up a few weeks. Good luck!
Post # 4
won’t she be on her honeymoon when you get married?
Post # 5
I would hope that she asked the other bridesmaids about it, so that they could voice the fact that they will be flying in twice in a week. It seems stressful for everyone including the other bride because she can’t exactly go off and relax after her wedding either. Maybe you could work the timing to your advantage by sharing items? Or having a joint bachelorette. Of course, I wouldn’t blame you if you wanted your wedding to be distinct from hers.
Post # 6
I have the same situation…except I’m not her Bridesmaid or Best Man and she didn’t ask me how I felt about it…not a great situation.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
It’s going to be a busy week… but it’s wonderful that you have such a great attitude about it, and aren’t saying “she’s such a bi-atch, how dare she!” Assuming that she won’t be on her honeymoon for your wedding, it’ll work out. The bridesmaid who’s flying will be the most stressed out, I think, but hopefully she checked with the other girls, too.