(Closed) One of my bridesmaids dropped out AND isn’t coming to my wedding at all!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

can you explain what the issue is with your immediate family and why this is offensive to her?

Post # 4
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Let it go. You thought about it and made the best decision based on the curcumstances.

Post # 6
255 posts
Helper bee

You sound like you have thought long and hard about this so you have definately not made any bad decisions here, IMO it sounds like the Bridesmaid or Best Man is just being a little self-righteous and not thinking of your feelings at all. Not impressed with her behaviour!!!!!

Post # 9
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


I am sorry.  I don’t think that you need to justify inviting family to your wedding to her. 

I think I would just respond to her with a message about how you value your friendship with her, and you are disappointed/saddened/surprised with her decisions to drop out of your wedding party and not attend your wedding. 

Post # 10
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sweetie. You thought about it. You made the decision that YOU and only YOU could make. If she’s not happy about it then that’s rough, but you call the shots, as t’s your family. I agree with the above post. Let her know you are saddened by her decision to drop out and not attend, but that you still count her among your friends.

On a personal note, we’re date twins. I know how it feels to have a bridesmaid leave a month prior to the wedding, as it happened to me as well, for different reasons. My sympathies and then some. I did send my friend the above message, and no response since. It will probably take take time, though it’s hard to wait. Chin up. The point is, don’t let this ruin your day. You are marrying someone you love very much, and you seem like a very thoughtful, warm hearted person. Enjoy your life and your love! You deserve it! And congrats! I’ll cross my fingers for you on our big day! =-)

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