(Closed) One of my bridesmaids got a tattoo across her chest.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Oh well, time to start looking at cardigans.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have you shared your thoughts with your bm? Maybe you can talk to her, about how you feel about her tattoo? Not that it’s going to change the fact that it’s there, but maybe if you can find a solution for it together of some sorts. She might understand  you better if you explained where you are coming from if you tell her why you are concerned over her tattoo (size, color, distraction, what is on your mind etc).

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think anyone can distract from the bride. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would agree with mrscheetos those can be covered up temporarily. If for some reason it can’t be maybe you could have you BMs get some kind of a bolero to wear in teh pictures that would cover it. Or a combination of the 2? Just explain as nicely as you can to your bridesmaid how you feel about the tat and what you would like her to do. I’m sure she would understand.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t really see the point if talking to her about it, it will just unnecessarily make her feel bad and she didn’t do anything wrong. There’s nothing to be done other than a cute wrap or cardigan or something. Or just leave it be – tattoos and piercings are very common and becoming more popular all the time, I doubt anyone will think much of it.

And as for your pictures…the point of the Bridesmaid or Best Man pics is to get a picture of the girls you love and want standing next to you at your wedding. Not an altered perfect version of those girls. I’d leave it be, and I think asking her to cover it up with makeup would be offensive, my family doesn’t like tattoos but there’s now way I was asking any of my BMs to cover theirs up (and yes, some are quite large and, well, ugly), they’re my friends and I love them just as they are.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Mine has a beautiful(sarcastic) tattoo on her chest too. I said…cover that up please. I love you, not a fan of it and i’d like a uniform look to my photos please.

she complied. it isn’t bridezilla and it should be a simple request. anyone that puts up a fight is immature.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

One of my friends has over 40 tattoos, and at the time she got married she had somewhere in the neighborhood of 29… a lot were on her shoulders, chest, arms, and back.

I will say, even with all the ink (there are some rather large colorful ones on her chest), she still looked beautiful in all the pictures.

I understand that it may seem like an obstacle to you right now, but as long as it’s nothing totally offensive I say it’s not a huge deal. I know, easy to say… but really I think it will add character to your photos! ๐Ÿ™‚

If it really bothers you that badly, I agree with PP’s… asking her to airbrush make-up or a bolero will help! Are you going to help her pay for those things if you ask her to go that route? It may offend her that you want her to pull even more money our of her pocketbook to airbrush or cover herself up to look picture perfect.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@Wonderstruck: Agree with this.  And I don’t find tattoos in photos that distracting.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This isn’t a tattoo but my sister has half her head shaved and the other side is red. It has been this way for some time and as a bm of course everyone saw. Lots of people had something to say to me like why couldn’t she fix her hair a different way (mostly his family). Well this is my sister and I love her for who she is. In the pictures you don’t even notice. I’ve showed a bunch of people my album and not one person has said anything. They did however comment on the gm who wore skate shoes. Ya still not too impressed with that. But anyways, if it is a big deal to you get the girls a wrap or something, but you will be the main focus.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Jd64848704: i will say it’s my wish that she not be all tatted so i will be paying for it.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

@peachbaby4008: Hey!  One of my BMs has a big across-her-chest tattoo, too (along with 13 others all over the place).  I know she was in a wedding 2 years ago and covered it perfectly with makeup – you couldn’t see it in ANY of the pics and she didn’t mind covering it.  I’m still debating whether to ask her to cover it, but the thing is, it’s really beautiful and it’s part of her.  She doesn’t mind me posting it so here it is:  it says “Did you get what you wanted, even so?”

**note: she is not actually oompa loompa orange, it’s just the lighting in the pic

The quote is from Raymond Carver’s “Late Fragment”:

“And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth.”

I love it.  She also has a big one on her shin that COULD be covered….but then it just wouldn’t be “her”.  I guess writing this post has given me my answer about whether I want her to cover it. ๐Ÿ™‚

I have no idea what your BMs looks like, but in all honestly, the tattoo cover-up makeup works.  Good luck!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Photoshop…your photographer should be able to remove it from your pics if you don’t want it there!

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