Post # 1
Ok, I need a little assistance here. I have one bridesmaid who is 20, and will be 20 at my wedding in 4 weeks (she turns 21 2 weeks later). So, does anyone have experience with planning bachelorette parties around the age limitation? I know her, and I know she’ll feel really badly if she feels like she’s preventing me from doing what I want, but I can’t imagine celebrating without her–aren’t there bars/clubs that are 18 and up? So she can get in, she just can’t drink? I don’t know a lot about this and I didn’t really go out much before I was 21 (still don’t, come to think of it), but I’d really like to have a fun night out on the town with my friends! What would you do?
Post # 3
Please? A little guidance?
Post # 4
It depends on where you’re from and what exactly you want to do at your bachlorette party.
I am planning to go out to dinner with my girls, then to a show of some kind, either a comedy show, an R-rated hypnotist or a drag show. In my area, there are plenty of things like this that are 18+. I’m not really into the bar/club scene so I didn’t want to do that anyways. The afternoon of my bach party, we might go shopping in Boston as well. I think many 21+ places are either clubs or bars after a certain time, so you can either go out earlier in the night, or you can look at other options in your area.
Edited to add: one of my bridesmaids is 20 as well, which is why I’m trying to plan 18+ things as well. It’s definitely more of a challenge!
Post # 5
What’s she like? Does she drink and go out often? Let’s be honest here, over half the 20 year olds I know have fake IDs.
You could go to an 18+ club or bar, or you could go to a late night restaurant that’s BYOB. You could also get a hotel room for all of you and then finish up the night there. Seriously, I understand not wanting her to get into trouble or do anything illegal, but if she drinks on a regular basis like most 20 year olds, she’ll probably want to drink at your bachelorette party as well.
Post # 6
Um. Not to be a bad example here but…I started drinking out when I was 18. A lot of places are, shall we say, lax, especially in major cities it seems (I have never been carded in NYC, for example), and a woman who is 21 minus two weeks isn’t going to be corrupted by attending a bachelorette party and having some drinks. If you don’t have any qualms with it, perhaps ask friends if they know any bars/clubs in the area that aren’t too strict about regulations?
Post # 7
Kareoke clubs, spa trips or mani-pedis, sporting events, midnight bowling, adult theatre or comedy shows, and ghost/sightseeing tours were all things my friend considered when she planned out mutual friend’s bachelorette.
We had two 18-year-olds with us (bride’s cousins), and ended up doing the kareoke club becuase we got a great rate on a private room. The 21+ crowd bought a few drinks, and the minors got virgin drinks or fun ones like Shirley Temples.
Post # 8
Canada? lol. A little far. I know
Post # 9
I would do dinner before so she can be completely involved and enjoy the party. I would probably pregame before dinner an/or after dinner in the room just because thats what we usually do and that way she gets to drink. Then, I would probably go to some 18 and up bars/clubs and if you’re in Nashville, there’s plenty of those! I haven’t been there in a while but I can remember the Wild Horse Saloon being 18 and up and it’s actually really fun and huge, yall would have a good time there. Just go online and look up some 18 and up places.
If you don’t want to do that, you could do dinner and/or find a place that is BYOB, like another bee suggested. You could just have a slumber party and drink at home, do a girls day, go to a theme park, have a hosted lingerie/toy party, you could go to a resort over night, Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge…
There’s plenty of options if you don’t want to have it involve drinking but if you do, there’s plenty of 18 and up to go to, just google it. O and I’m not advocating underage drinking (not that I didn’t do it but still, nobody needs to get in trouble) but she’s a few wks away and if it’s at the room or in private to me it’s no big deal.
Yall can def figure something out!
Post # 10
Sorry for not responding everyone!! Work went insane! I really appreciate all the input. She definitely does drink–and we have had fun in the past drinking together–but I know she doesn’t have a fake. So, I like the idea of pregaming dinner and then getting a hotel room! That sounds fun! @mrsmurraytobe – I’m hoping that there are a lot of 18 and up places, but I haven’t lived here very long, so I’m not all that familiar. I’ll definitely check out Wild Horse Saloon! Thanks!!
Post # 11
One of my bridesmaids will also only be 20 when I get married. So my Maid/Matron of Honor is planning on having a bunch of drinks at her house beforehand, then we’re renting a limo and going out to dinner and clubs from there. Good luck!! :]