(Closed) One of my favorite rings is missing…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’d try to put it our of your mind (like that’s possible, I know) and try really hard not to get hopes up.  I’m going to repeat my friend’s rule about little jewelry boxes so you can tell your guy at a good moment:

No small jewelry boxes that look like THE ring could be in them… unless THE ring is in it.  Otherwise a nice, possibly expensive pair of earrings, a necklace or who knows what will be a let down, no matter how nice it is. 

I like to torture myself by “window” shopping on the web – it looks like some places can be pretty reasonalbe with their prices for rings and bridal sets, and some even have payment plans… Personally, I think almost anything would be fine with my, except CZ – my mom was the QVC queen of CZ, and I’ve read that they are on the birrlte side and can chip/crack more easily than diamond (of course) or moissanite.  Heck, I’d like my birthstone instead of a diamond, since it’s only semi-precious it can be pretty big but less expensive.

Try your best not to expect a ring, especially at Christmas, as I’m sure he wants to give you something nice, and some guys are against proposing ON a holiday… he might be looking, and taking his time to make sure he picks the right ring, or your ring might have slipped somewhere unlikely in the house and you’ll find it next week – you can’t know till he gets down on that knee… anticipating too much will only drive you nuts 🙂

Post # 4
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Making your ring a reality is mind-bogglingly expensive.  And I’m not the one under pressure to do so in the next two months.

OK.  My guy is fairly well off.  He’s using an heirloom diamond I gave him.  He STILL has $3K budgeted for a ring (and I pointed out only rings under $1K.)  A 1.5 carat diamond costs about $13K through the company he’s buying my ring from.  A 2.5 carat diamond costs $27K ($17K for a low quality diamond that size.)

Think of that on a month-to-month basis.  $20-30,000 for a ring? AND moving to another country, starting over entirely?  You’re thinking you want to be engaged in, oh, 15+ years, then?  

Of COURSE it hurts when you say “I want a ring like this 2.5 carat one!” or “Well, 1.5 carats would do.”  Maybe the delay in an engagement could be due, in part, to the fact that he knows you want a huge ring that he can’t reasonably afford.  You can get a pretty $150 ring at a department store, but it WON’T be a 1.5 carat diamond.  It’d make things easier on him to find some inexpensive rings (with the gems already included) to show him.  Culture tells us it has to be a real gem, which is probably what he wants to get you.   He probably thinks you’d be disappointed by any ring he COULD afford.  And he probably wants his proposal to be perfect.  Which is more important – getting married (properly) or having a big ring?

(This came up for me when I realized part of his delay in proposing was that my guy thought I “deserved” a big ring.  I don’t even LIKE big rings.  It wasn’t until I found relatively cheap rings – that are very much my style – that he got on board with the idea of getting engaged in the next six months.)

Post # 5
10365 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think he took it to get it sized for your engagement ring, but I think you might be getting your hopes up too high that he is modeling the ring after it. It’s much more likely that it is a sizing issue!

Post # 7
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Whether he got it from you or not, it’s good that you have talked about budgets and your taste!  That’s a huge step for guys to be willing to talk about it!!

And, I don’t want to get your hopes up, but if my guy had taken my ring and I had asked him about it, he would have played it cool and I would have never known…. so… even though he played it off, he still could have something going on.  You never know with guys… they can be very surprising! 🙂

I hope it’s soon for you!!  It’s so exciting!!

Post # 8
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh my gosh, I had the same thing happen about a month ago, and let me tell you, don’t get your hopes up!!  For a few days, I couldn’t find one of my favorite rings (a simple but pretty aquamarine solitaire that I wear on my ring finger a lot), and I thought “Ohmygosh!  Could he have taken it to get it sized?!”  I tried so hard not to get my hopes up, but I did.  I found it a few days later – turns out I put it in a little glass jar on my dresser that I recently got from my mom and just didn’t think about because it’s so new (it didn’t occur to me as a place I might have put it).

I hope this turns out better for you, but it can be such a disappointment if it doesn’t!  Ugh (lol, sorry, just remembering this gets me frustrated with myself).

Post # 9
2326 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree its suspicous, but I think he may have took it to get your ring size(but then again why take your favourite ring?) I don’t know just to put your mind at ease I’d keep looking for it though see where it shows up.


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