Post # 1
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Busy bee
So I was lamenting to a coworker about how much I miss my lovely nommy red wine with dinner from time to time. I’m supposed to be meeting a friend for a nice fine dining experience in a few weeks and just looking at some of the entrees I was pairing it with a nice glass of vino. She looked at me smirked that “you’re such a rookie” smirk and told me that one glass of wine every once in a while wouldn’t hurt anything.
So several other coworkers chimed in that they did it and it “wasnt a big deal”, but I dunno if I’m necessarily comfortable with that. I know some women do have an occasional sip or small glass but I thought you had to be well into the 3rd trimester before that. I’m only 16 weeks.
So bees, what’s your take? Can you have the occasional glass from time to time or is it a serious no-no?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Personally, I’m 10 weeks with my second but didn’t find out until 7 weeks, and over Christmas I had a beer..same happened with my first with a couple of beers before I knew and we had no issues. But, now I know I won’t drink anything. I know mums who had wine every night while pregnant but at the end of the day, whatever you eat and drink goes through the placenta to baby, no matter the quantity I don’t want my kid to get used to that. Not just alcohol but high sugar and caffeine. Everyone is different for what quantities are safe, so I wouldn’t risk it, especially having worked with children who have foetal alcohol syndrome whose parents were ‘moderate drinkers’ :/
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I’ve heard this too, and especially at the holidays (I was ~25 weeks) my family and ILs kept offering a small glass, but I just feel like… meh. I wouldn’t judge other women who had a glass, but I just don’t feel the desire to have one. I can make it 9 months without.
I will however have just a sip of DH’s beer if he’s trying a new one I haven’t had!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’ve had a couple friends who have been pregnant and both of them had their occasional sip of wine – one even had a doctor tell her that a very small amount would be okay – but for both of these they waited well into their pregnancies to have anything.
I even have a relative who got drunk a couple of times after the got pregnant (didn’t know) but had a perfectly healthy baby as she didn’t really abuse it.
I have heard from a number of people that “no amount is a safe amount” but I do wonder about that myself…
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Personally it would be a risk i’m not willing to take. I love my wine but I can wait a few more months 🙂
Post # 7
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Honey bee
Once I knew I was pregnant I couldn’t drink no matter how good something sounded. My youngest just turned 1 (out of 3 girls) and I think there has been a shift in the medical field since I had my first (who is now 11). More providers will say the occaissional drink shouldn’t do harm, but until they could tell me a point at which it would it just wasn’t worth the risk for me.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
My opinion is that if normal (non binging) drinking of wine or beer caused FAS then entire regions of Europe would be entrily affected a century ago. I just don’t have a little now because to me it’s a tease. I don’t want 1 glass, I want 3 glasses. 1 glass just make me realize I miss it. Plus the judgement. But I’m postitive my grandmother, great-grand mothers, all drank while pregnant- their kids are all fine. The one study they did about it over half the ‘drinkers’ in the drinking group also used Cocaine regularly. So I find that study dubious. Modern studies do not show harmful effects even from DAILY drinking (IMO that is too much not pregnant). To me though, between trying not to feel sick, heartburn and making sure I get all my vitimins – I don’t have calories to spare for booze. I didn’t drink when I quit smoking either- it just would have made it harder.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I had a co-worker who never knew she was pregnant until delivery and drank like a normal person. Child is fine and super smart, thriving 4th grader.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
I have a PhD in neuroscience and agree that a glass of wine a few times while pregnant is not going to do anything, but I still wouldn’t do it. I don’t like alcohol that much and it’s only 9 months, so I would do everything I can to boost my immunity and be healthy.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I was young when I got pregnant (21, had him at 22), and I am/was a big drinker.. I love my wine!
but after I found out I was pregnant, even tho sure I really wanted a glass.. I just kind of figured what’s the point? I’m sure one glass would have been fine, but I wouldn’t have enjoyed it because of the guilt/worry, so really what’s the point? Just to say I did it? No thanks, I’ll pass.
I was fine to wait a few months, and my first glass of wine after he came was ah-Mazing. Worth the wait.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I won’t lie, I had a glass of alcohol on two or three occasions during my pregnancy, but drinking on a weekly basis–even in moderate amounts–has been shown to affect IQ. Here’s the Oxford article I read on the subject when I was pregnant:
http://www.ox.ac.uk/media/news_stories/2012/121115.html
Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
My husband’s cousin had an occasional glass of wine and her kid is seven and totally healthy. She is now pregnant with her second and seems to be doing fine, I think the key is moderation.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
I have heard it’s no biggie but that doesn’t change the fact that I do think it’s a biggie and won’t drink once I get preggs.
Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
Eh I drank before I knew was pregnant and didn’t find out until about 11 or 12 weeks along and I also had a glass and half of champagne on my wedding day, I was 16 weeks or so along.
Everything in moderation…
Post # 16
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Helper bee
I agree with PP. Totally worth the wait.
Its probably fine to drink a tiny bit here and there but why risk it? I don’t love drinking that much. It is just a minor inconvenience.