(Closed) One question/ venting post :/

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s not what we think, it’s what you think. What would make you happy.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The ring I considered affordable was not just based on income, but existing savings.  My e-ring ended up probably being about 1.5 months salary and I’m totally happy wiht that.  I cant imagine a 3 month salary ring.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have no idea what my man spent on my ring… BECAUSE IT DOESN’T MATTER!!! The ring is a symbol, period. One that can be changed and upgraded later on in life. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think a ring should cost what the spender is comfortable spending. I don’t think there should be any rule around salary etc. that being said my ring cost.. Probably 4 or so months salary, but that was a very saved up for purchase, not to mention everyone has different debt to income ratios and salaries.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should go look at rings and see what you like and how much it is. You will find out if you like solitaires, more extravagent settines, bigger center stones, etc. There are endless possibilities! 

Go with what both of you feel comfortable with. i dont think there is any price that you have to spend on a ring. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

personally, my ring wasn’t anywhere near 2 months of my FI’s salary.  I don’t even think it was 1 month, but i picked it out/love it & would rather spend that money on a nicer honeymoon or something else.  I think it’s really an individual choice.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@WhiteWedding:  totally agree! I have no idea what my ring cost and even looked away when the appraisal was being written for the insurance. To me, it’s more a symbol of our love and to show that I am committed to the man I love. I think too much emphasis is placed on the material aspect of engagements and weddings.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

The whole two months salary thing was a marketing scheme by diamond companies in the 50s (I think the 50s…) to get people to spend more money on their product. Ignore that rule, it’s totally absurd.

What’s reasonable is what you can afford and within that, what you like. I would suggest discussing it and coming up with a budget you both are comfortable with. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My husband picked a ring that we could afford… not based off salary i think it depends on you guys.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I like to say that the cost doesn’t matter all that much and all that should matter is that you have a man who loves you and want to spend his life with you.  You know, the symbolism being the ring and all that ish.  But…I know I wouldn’t have been happy with some $200 ring when my husband can afford much more.  He spent far less than 3 months salary, though, and I was 100% fine with that.  It really all depends on the person I guess.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with the others.  It should be something affordable, but thoughtful.  It should show that they’re invested in life together after the ring.

Unfortunately mass media decided to screw that over, so many (females and males) have a warped sense of what a ring now symbolizes.  It shouldn’t be about the money, its all about love and commitment.

 

That being said, my diamond was 2 months worth of his “current” salary.  But apparently he knew that he wanted to marry me the first year we met (in high school!) and started squirreling away about $100 a month for roughly five years.  If he still had his old job at Dairy Queen when we first met, I think it would be over a year’s salary.  ๐Ÿ˜›

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