Post # 1
SO’s family literally lives across the world and would not have the $ to attend a wedding if we did not pay for their tickets. There are three of them, so this would mean ~$10,000. Imagine funding that + a wedding (my family is huge and would beinsulted if ALL of them were not invited) + a ring. Basically I need to win the lottery if I ever want to get married because I have no idea how we would afford it otherwise.
This takes a huge amount of the enjoyment and excitement of getting engaged and married out of it for me. I have only been out of uni a year and a half. We hardly have any savings.
It just feels very unattainable.
Sigh. Bad waiting day.
Post # 3
Oh and SO wants to buy a house!
Post # 4
Could you elope? You could do a dinner or party with your family to celebrate afterward. Then you could travel to his family some time later when it’s affordable, just to celebrate. I think a wedding can take many different forms. It’s more about the unity than the format of the celebration. Of course, it’s ideal to have everyone together in the same venue at the same time, but you could make it special any way that you decide. 🙂
Post # 5
I second what @MissMarriage said about eloping. If you make it just the two of you but then include ALL of your family in a party/dinner AND visit his … everyone is equally involved. Just have a conversation with your family and explain your decision. I’d hope they would understand.
Post # 6
Don’t know where they live but what if you had two ceremonies? Get married (ceremony and legally) here, with your family and then when you have the money you can fly you and your SO over there and have a ceremony with them?
Post # 7
i agree about maybe 2 ceremonies… maybe a larger wedding here, and a small one with the far away family, and maybe you could incorporate that part into your honeymoon (like go somewhere close to them)…
Post # 8
@alwaysamaid: that sounds like a good idea!
Post # 9
@WestCoast: How do 3 plane tickets cost $10,000? I feel like I’m missing something. Where are they from? If you got married in an off season, his should be much cheaper….
Most of my family will not be able to make the international trip to my wedding, and at the moment I don’t have a job so the idea of having two weddings is seeming more stressful. I’m thinking about skyping my other family members in, as it’s better than nothing. Otherwise I’d support eloping.