- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Is anyone else facing a wedding with guests only from the groom’s side?
We’re having a wedding in our current home state, whereas all of my friends and family are still on the other side of the country. I’ve just been bumming lately because it looks like nobody from my side, except my parents, will be coming. This might be premature whining, considering invites don’t go out until early next month, but from conversations I’ve had with these guests, none of them will be able to make the trip.
Cue feeling a little hurt for the following reasons:
- They don’t have a problem with me spending hundreds of dollars a year flying all the way over there, then renting a car and going through a shameful amount of gas to drive all over the place visiting them. They never offer to come to me; they always ask me to drive to them. None of them have come out here for a visit since I moved, either. Ordinarily I don’t care, but I just realized it’s been seven years of this.
- They’ve known the date/location of the wedding since late last year, so they’ve had months to plan.
My mother defends all of them, saying it’s my fault for moving “too far” away and traveling is expensive (preaching to the choir). I know the economy is crap and I certainly didn’t expect everyone to make it, but jeez, nobody?! It’s not like I’m the first woman to have a destination wedding, and we’re staying in the continental U.S. I even moved the date from September to August to make it more convenient for certain guests, found motels and hotels at low price points, and offered to put people in touch with each other to travel/bunk together as a means of saving money, and they’re still not coming.
I was thinking about planning a party/get-together in my hometown sometime next year, to see people we couldn’t afford to invite to the wedding, and I have this feeling I’ll be kind of irked when they show up for that after they were like, “I’ll definitely be at your wedding, I’m really looking forward to it!” then flaked.
My Fiance feels terrible, my mom is upset (with me, for moving the wedding closer to my current home), and I’m just wondering why we didn’t elope. Oh, that’s right, because I wanted to spend the day celebrating with a few of my nearest and dearest. LOL. Thank goodness I love my future in-laws so much!
You know what they say, misery loves company… any similar stories out there? (Though I hope no one else is dealing with this. It sucks.)