(Closed) One Sister a Bridesmaid, not the other.

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What is the RIGHT thing to do?

    Make a point to tell her, like she told me.

    Don't bring it up unless she specifically asks.

    You can't ask only one sister to be a BM. BOTH or NONE.

    Tell Crazymom my decision and watch a trainwreck hit the whole damn family.

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I don’t know if this is the popular opinion, but I think it’s ok to have not included your older sister since you aren’t close. It will probably cause drama, but in the end, it’s your wedding day and you should have the closest people to you standing by your side.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    people dont find tasks for bridesmaids… thats not what a bridesmaid is

     

    I think your fine not to include her if your so distant and she didnt reach out to include you

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    victoriad :  My sister is not part of my wedding due to the fact that we are not close anymore and that I know she will create drama. She was originally a bridesmaid (to tell you the truth i asked her out of obligation) and she was continually asking me “are you sure you want me to be a bridesmaid?” I finally snapped and said, you know what, if you are going to ask this many times then I guess you dont want to be one, so you are no longer a bridesmaid.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    If she made a point to explain why you weren’t going to be in her wedding and those circumstances haven’t changed, I think it’s implied that you didn’t ask her for the same reason. I’m assuming her reason was that you weren’t close and not a one-sided reason or something that no longer applies.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    victoriad :  Yes, but then after thinking about it she said she understood, because if she were getting married right now she wouldnt have me as a bridesmaid either. However we are still a year out, so she could blow up at me before then….She has a very explosive personality to say it nicely.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

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    victoriad :  I haven’t had my wedding yet but I will only be having one of my sisters (I have two older) also. Both of them are half sisters but my oldest was always quite mean to us as children (she is much older and was always jealous of my other sister and I) and has honestly never put any effort into having a relationship with me. I didn’t really feel it necessary to include her in my bridal party since we are so distant. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my other sister’s wedding though and she will be co-MOH with my best friend in mine. 

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