Post # 1
I posted recently about how SO was excited to have paid his credit card off in February, that way he could start saving for a ring. So I’ve been all giddy and convinced myself a proposal would probably happen by the end of the year.
Then today at lunch, SO starts talking about how he’s wanting to buy a new Mac computer, an iPhone 5, and football season tickets in the near future.
Why in the hell would these take priority over proposing?!? I don’t understand. If I were the one saving for a ring, it would come before everything else.
I’m going to talk to him more about tonight when I see him. I’ve kept my mouth shut for 2.5 months, but this is concerning to me.
Post # 3
he might be trying to throw you off his scent.
Post # 4
Yeah that would tick me off too. Getting engaged would definitely be a priority over gadgets, especially going into debt for them! Why doesn’t he SAVE for those things instead?
Post # 5
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^^^ I was just going to say that maybe just *maybe* he’s telling you this so you don’t guess what he’s up to? Or maybe he has a plan to get all these things as well as a ring?
Post # 6
I don’t think SO would purposely use that to throw me off because by now, he knows I would just get upset ha.
An there’s a very slim chance he could swing all of those expenses as well as saving for a ring. He has a good job but isn’t making amazing money just yet.
Post # 7
@seabunny: He would be saving for them, not putting them on a CC.
Post # 8
@pokie45: I was going to say maybe he is just telling you that to throw you off, but you already dont think that’s the situation, so then talk to him and see what happens. But, if he is playing you and he said that to make you think that you are not getting a ring, but in reality he is getting you a ring, then you are not going to look good arguing about it, ya know?! GL and FX
Post # 9
Talking to him is a good idea. I hope it goes well.
Post # 10
Maybe he’s not ready to get engaged and doesn’t want to tell you what you don’t want to hear, so he’s dropping these not-so-subtle hints.
Post # 11
He’s either trying to trick you into thinking he isn’t saving for the ring or he’s just got ready to be married yet. If you don’t think he would try to trick you then I guess it can only be one other thing…
Post # 12
My fiance kept buying things while he was saving for a ring, and that dissapointed me too, but he was able to save up enough to buy the ring at the right time and then propose at the right time. 🙂 I hope this helps you.
Post # 13
@pokie45: As much as I believe in the SIUP to prevent nagging and driving away SOs, I think this is a situation where you could have piped up and said something like, “I thought you were so excited to pay off your CC to start saving for a ring!” Calling him out on something he said earlier isn’t whiney and annoying; it puts the ball back in his court and encourages him to own up to what he said.
If you don’t ask, you don’t know! And that adds to the agony of waiting. Sometimes staying quiet isn’t the answer.
Post # 14
LOL he might be doing that to throw you off!!!! I wouldn’t speak so soon. Try to focus on yourself, and other priorities. Maybe even find a new hobby. If you’ve already had the talk with him about wanting to be married, im sure he already knows.
If not, then this would be a great time to do so.