(Closed) One step forward, two steps back ..or so it seems.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

he might be trying to throw you off his scent.

Post # 4
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah that would tick me off too. Getting engaged would definitely be a priority over gadgets, especially going into debt for them! Why doesn’t he SAVE for those things instead?

Post # 5
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

^^^ I was just going to say that maybe just *maybe* he’s telling you this so you don’t guess what he’s up to? Or maybe he has a plan to get all these things as well as a ring?

Post # 8
4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@pokie45:  I was going to say maybe he is just telling you that to throw you off, but you already dont think that’s the situation, so then talk to him and see what happens.  But, if he is playing you and he said that to make you think that you are not getting a ring, but in reality he is getting you a ring, then you are not going to look good arguing about it, ya know?! GL and FX

Post # 9
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Talking to him is a good idea. I hope it goes well.

Post # 10
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Maybe he’s not ready to get engaged and doesn’t want to tell you what you don’t want to hear, so he’s dropping these not-so-subtle hints.

Post # 11
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

He’s either trying to trick you into thinking he isn’t saving for the ring or he’s just got ready to be married yet. If you don’t think he would try to trick you then I guess it can only be one other thing…

Post # 12
1984 posts
Buzzing bee

My fiance kept buying things while he was saving for a ring, and that dissapointed me too, but he was able to save up enough to buy the ring at the right time and then propose at the right time. 🙂 I hope this helps you. 

Post # 13
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@pokie45:  As much as I believe in the SIUP to prevent nagging and driving away SOs, I think this is a situation where you could have piped up and said something like, “I thought you were so excited to pay off your CC to start saving for a ring!” Calling him out on something he said earlier isn’t whiney and annoying; it puts the ball back in his court and encourages him to own up to what he said.

If you don’t ask, you don’t know! And that adds to the agony of waiting. Sometimes staying quiet isn’t the answer.

Post # 14
314 posts
Helper bee

LOL he might be doing that to throw you off!!!! I wouldn’t speak so soon. Try to focus on yourself, and other priorities. Maybe even find a new hobby. If you’ve already had the talk with him about wanting to be married, im sure he already knows.

If not, then this would be a great time to do so.


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