(Closed) One step forward….

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

What about him proposing with a cheap substitute ring in the mean time? That way you could both move forward without worrying about the huge financial commitment of that type of purchase. I know a lot of ladies will suggest you get engaged without a ring (which isn’t an option for you) or they’ll say just to get a cheaper ring and call it a day. There’s nothing wrong with that. But I’m the type of person who feels it’s the one time in my life to own an actual piece of jewelry, I want a little more than a cracker jack ring. And there is nothing wrong with loving a beautiful, slightly expensive ring. But if it isn’t feasabile at the moment…perhaps he could propose with that cracker jack ring wth a promise that you’ll eventually get the real thing? Just a thought. I’m sorry it seems like it’s just one thing after another. I can imagine it’s terribly frustrating. But it was really sweet of him to put the ring on layaway. Hope he finds work soon!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Honestly, I think that’s a great idea – you paying for the ring and him chipping in for the rest as he can. Did he ever know you had a deadline? I hate using that word cause it seems so harsh and unbending. But did he know that you wanted to be engaged by your 4 year anniversary? Cause if he did you could always sit him down again and let him know again, if you haven’t already, that you are still more than happy to pay for the remainder of the ring to help move things along. Just an idea.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

@PrettySedity:  I see nothing wrong with helping him purchase the ring.  My dad proposed to my mom on a whim and without a ring.  He was unemployed at the time.  After they got engaged, my mom said that they basically lived with the philosophy of “what’s mine is yours”, and it wasn’t at all a big deal for her to pitch in for her e-ring. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I think you need to put your foot down…. if you know in your heart you can not wait any longer, you must put your foot down and have a conversation about this.

Start out with saying how much you love him and etc and that you want to marry him. Then go into how much it is breaking your heart not being engaged at this moment. Tell him that it is very frustrating to know that the only reason why you are waiting is because there isn’t a lot of money for this ring he wants to buy. Then explain to him that you really don’t care about the ring, the cost, etc. Tell him you just want to be engaged and have this official at this point.

Then bring the options into it—

  • Get a cheaper ring and upgrade later (my Fiance did this so we could just be engaged).
  • Let you help pay for ths ring and he pays for the other items of the wedding.
  • Let you pay for the ring and he pays you back.

Then end the conversation by saying you are just about done with the waiting and really at this point, there is no reason to be waiting since there are other options that can be exercised….

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@armychica06: Then end the conversation by saying you are just about done with the waiting and really at this point, there is no reason to be waiting since there are other options that can be exercised….

You really put that perfectly.

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