Post # 1
I always here married women in retrospect saying there were a few things in the wedding they wish they would have done differently. If you could pick just ONE, which may be hard(after reading some of these threads) what would you have done differently?
Post # 3
@Liss13: Not hired our DJ. I would of saved that money and done an ipod disco. He wasnt bad, but he wasnt great and i did find myself rounding up the bridesmaids to force them onto dancefloor a few times. We could of saved the money and had music we knew would get people dancing. Shame really, he came highly recommended.
Post # 4
Planned the pictures better! I would have asked a cousin to be “in-charge” of getting everyone coordinated so it would be less confusing for the photographer and relatives.
Post # 5
I dk… I would say not have hired my wedding planner. Don’t get me wrong she is a great person, we just don’t have the same taste when it comes to planning a wedding. She is traditional, I am offbeat. I’m a bit worried how my day is going to turn out. So far the ideas she has sound nice. But what I didn’t like was the ivory linens everywhere like you see in weddings all the time with the ivory chair covers and all that. Okay we get it, we’re at a wedding, how much more white do you need? I love color and I wanted to do a fall theme but like some other ppl down here, they are just more concerned with a color theme 🙁 Not that there’s anything wrong with it, it’s just not what I had in mind. Also in addition to our tastes clashing, I feel like I’m losing control of my wedding planning. She is a huge help with taking the stress off but I am budget conscious and I think some things I could have gotten cheaper (our centerpiece vases are $17.99 ea for those huge hurricane vases… holy cow!). I was originally looking for a DOC, I wouldn’t have had a relaxing day of wedding experience without one. My DJ recommended her and she has bent over backwards for me. She’s very sweet and I love her to death.. we just don’t have the same taste! That would probably be the only thing I would change. That and I wish I would have known how much weddings actually cost! I would have had more money saved up. Getting married in my town is not cheap!
Post # 6
I have absolutely no regrets with my second wedding. However for my first wedding, I wished I would have:
1) Not planned for the limo to take the guys to the church first. Traffic was bad, I was picked up late and arrived at my ceremony 20 minutes late.
2) Practiced doing up my bustle. I had a longggg train and the alterations lady showed us but we were already pressed for time and it took forever causing us to be late to the reception.
3) Not planned so many pictures with the guests. I don’t remember eating but do remember going to every table and taking pics. I look back and everyone else was still eating and the pics were awful.
4) Not agreed to letting the GMs, a couple of BMs, and cousins stay the night at our apartment the night of the wedding. The place was trashed, we didn’t get to do the deed, and I felt awful kicking everyone out the next day when we left for the Honeymoon.
Post # 7
Skip the whole wedding and just elope in Iceland or Africa or something. We’re serious travel addicts, and now I wish we had spent the $25,000 on a massive crazy trip!
Post # 8
@lucyh2bee: Did you have my DJ because I had the same problem. I was so annoyed that I paid that much and even $100 extra to get the owner of the company and he was lame. Didn’t really MC anything, didn’t make an effort to get people on the dance floor. All around just boring. I wish I had saved that money.
Post # 9
About the picture thing. I see some cute shots some people have on here, would I sound like a bitch if I told my photographer “I want a pic like this” or “Take a pic of these people” If Im paying soo much for this dude. I hear soooo many complaints about photographers and DJs on and off of this site it is unreal.
Post # 11
I would have booked a different DJ. We booked a neighbor we knew that had a DJ business, but he wasn’t very helpful with getting the songs I wanted before the wedding, and messed up some of the stuff I had given him a specific list for, like the processional and recessional. He was the first vendor we booked, and I blame just not being educated enough in the start. Oh well.
Post # 12
Told people exactly what I wanted is the main thing. I just got married last Saturday. I found that some vendors just got me and Fiance right off the bat and got our vision. I took it for granted that the others did too. Also make it clear not only what you want but what you expect out of people. I avoided this at the risk of sounding like a bridezilla but it would have been much less stress if I had just let the beast out. You have to tell people what you expect of them or trust me, they won’t get it. Everyone told me that throwing a DIY wedding is as much about delegating as anything else. So I took their advice and delegated away which was a big thing for me since I rather like to do everything myself. The only problem is that you end up delegating to people who don’t realize you expected them to do anything. Let friends and family now exactly what their roles are. I expected that the day of people would be so eager to help that they would just show up and I would tell them what they could do. Hard to delegate when there is no one there at all though. Tell people that you wouldn’t just like their help but that you are counting on it. I didn’t and I was let down. My own bridesmaids were completely useless and didn’t show up until the ceremony. An hour before the wedding I was not getting ready with a glass of champagne but setting my own tables while my bride maids felt it more important to get their hair done then. Slipping into my dress on my own with minutes till the ceremony nearly put my into a anxiety attack. Thank God a few people showed up early who I had never expected to want to jump in and saved the day. My father’s estranged girlfriend/ long time roommate stepped up when I had completely overlooked her as a resource. I should have been a little bitchier to my BMs and said that it was there job to help me and to be there earlier than the ceremony. When I called them in the morning to ask where they were one didn’t answer and the other made some excuse about wanting to go for a jog first. F### your jog lady, I need you here. I thought it went without saying that they get there well before the ceremny but with weddings everything needs to be stated clearly because people are selfish idiots. Had to be said. Good luck.
Post # 13
DOC was totally worth it for me. Haven’t seen pics yet, but loved the photographer and videographer. Food was super yummy. Took time away from others for just us. Just wish my Darling Husband has seen his grooms cake before it was cut… I out a special design on it for him. Not a huge deal.
Post # 14
Eat more of my wedding cupcakes! People told me how amazing they were and I only got one bite, the bite from when we cut one. 🙁
Post # 15
I would have told the photographer not to take any black and white pictures. You can always turn a pic black and white, but it is much harder to turn it back to color. I have a group of pictures during my father/daughter dance that I desparately wish were in color.
Post # 16
My one thing – slot in time to do a careful inspection of the set-up with enough time to spare to correct things OR deputize someone to do it who knows exactly how/where everything should be so props are not missing or set up wrong, etc.