(Closed) One thing you REFUSED to have at your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
9074 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Paper plates and plastic silverware/glasses.

I am having an outdoor formal wedding and I insisted on real silverware, real plates and real glasses. My mother in law told me that a rental store told her that I was “bringing inside elegance outside” and that I needed to have disposable table dressings.

Absolutely not, Mother-In-Law. This is the only thing that I will fight you tooth and nail over. I am willing to compromise on any other point in the wedding, except this.

Post # 4
90 posts
Worker bee

Not even engaged yet, but I can promise you that there will be no bouquet/garter toss at my wedding.  And no sand ceremony or whatever its called…

Post # 5
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sonatine:  +1 to the sand ceremony.  Also, still on the fence with the garter toss..  :/

I really don’t want to do plastic table settings, but that might be what my budget calls for, sadly.

Post # 6
882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Garter and boquet tosses. I find the garter toss completly trashy, and so gross and uncomfortable to watch.

ETA: OP—just read about balloons—I never even knew prople had balloons at weddings, it seems like such a prom thing to me! 

Post # 7
8461 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

No unity candle/sand/water ceremony.  We’re not doing a garter toss, but we are doing a bouquet toss for a date night (movie tickets with popcorn and soda, coffee, etc), but we plan on calling everyone up for it, single or married.

Post # 8
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

No unity candle. No bouqet/garter toss.

Post # 9
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Garter toss, dollar dance, unity candle. ugh.

Post # 10
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Garter bouquet toss and daddy/daughter dance! Lots of other suggestions have come in from friends but I try to let them down nicely because I’m type A and I wanna plan my own stuff!

Post # 11
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Unity candle. First, it’s not part of the Episcopal ceremony, but even if it was, I would put my foot down. The fact that you blow out your individual candles and “become one” is so bizarre to me.

Also peacock feathers. My mom kept trying to incorporate them and I finally was like “have your own damn party with peacock feathers.”

Lastly: Mason jars. Those are for canning; not for decorating.

Post # 12
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No garter/bouquet toss, no one is walking me down the aisle, no mother groom dance and no father bride dance.

Post # 13
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We’re not having a garter/bowuet toss,  only because I don’t like the garter toss, so it kind of had to be no to both, but I really like the idea of winning something for the boquet,  hmmm something to think about

Post # 14
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The one thing I absolutely refused to do was a RECEIVING LINE!!

I hate them with a passion.  Don’t regret it one bit!

Post # 15
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014


That’s more traditional I guess? I just didn’t realize that FLs were so popular! The grand entrance in the aisle is the one and only part of my wedding I’ve envisioned since childhood and dang it, pictures and guests will just have to wait.

Post # 16
7758 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Dancing. I can’t dance to save my life and I’d rather spend the time talking and going from table to table. Fortunately, here no-dancing weddings are fairly common.

ETA: +1 to receiving line, though I didn’t so much refuse as not even think of it. Again, my prefered way to greet guests is going table to table.

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