(Closed) One thing you REFUSED to have at your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 212
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I absolutely refused to have anything religious.

Absolutely refused to have kids

Refused most traditional stuff – bouquet toss, garter toss, recieving line, cake, etc. 

 

Post # 213
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@BooRadley:  yess! at my cousin’s wedding all the bridesmaids were dressed up…and gripping beer bottles, it was so tacky :/ and all her photos from the reception show the same thing

Post # 214
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Happy2bMrs:  SNAP. I didn’t want to do a receiving line either, just to say and hear the same thing over and over

Post # 215
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is actually a funny question because my mother and I were just laughing about this.  My fiance and I lived and worked in Cape Cod for a few years and it’s where we met our best friends and where our relationship really grew.  We wanted to have a Cape Cod style wedding. My mom kept sending me snippets of things and we kept seeing pictures of Cape Cod style weddings littered with starfish! That’s ridiculous! There are no starfish in Cape Cod!  That was my one banned item and we giggle every time we see a starfish now. 

Post # 216
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No balloons, no receiving line, no dollar dance, no religious ceremony, no song requests, no head tables, no performers taking my spotlight!!!!!!!!

Post # 217
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

not to be mean but no music, no dancing.. does this apply to the guests as well? if thats the case it sounds like alot of sitting down, boredom and sore bums! I agree with no balloons though theyre a birthday party thing

Post # 218
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

No hard alcohol

No unity candle

No paper lanterns!!!!!

Smashing cake into each other’s faces

Post # 219
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Lindsay22:  Yea haha, it has a place and a time..it would look nice in a funeral home.

Post # 220
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Wannabee

Some of the things I don’t want at my wedding are: 

– Garter/Bouquet toss 

– Smashing cake in the face 

– Receiving line 

– Money Dance 

– “To obey” vow 

– Unity candle/Sand 

– Balloons 

– Head table 

– Couples entrance

Some things I will have: 

– Tying the knot ceremony (I think nautical things, this includes some of that, I like the symbolisim of it. The more pressure you put on it, the stronger the knot gets. I think during tough times you need something to look back on. I personally like this idea, rather than the unity candle thing) 

– Real flowers (I would like to donate the flowers to a retirement/nursing home after to brighten their day. I enjoy real flowers, don’t think they are a waste) 

– Giving away the bouquet (Instead of tossing a bouquet, I would like to give the bouquet to my soon to be mil because they have been together for 25 plus years and I think they are a good role model for their children. I think giving the bouquet to honorable relationships, rather than single ladies is better) 

– Sweet heart table (I think it is nice to have a chance to have some privacy, a nice conversation with your new spouse. I don’t think looking at a big head table, it’s awkward, plus the significant other of the bridal party is left out, sitting alone, it’s weird. I think you should be with your family, friends or spouse) 

-Sixpence (Rather than a penny, I would like to go traditional scottish and have a sixpence in my shoe)  

-Wedding Website ( Instead of telling people over and over again about how we met, my family, etc. Or sending out rsvp, directions, hotel accomodations, etc. etc. I will be having a wedding website. On the site, guests can read up on how we met, both families, the bridal party, there will be directions, hotel accomodations, a song request page (that I will go through before submitting to a dj or whatever we have), an rsvp page. This way, everyone will have to check out the website and they can get a feel for the couple and the wedding before the big day to reduce the amount of repetition I have to deal with on the day of) 

Questions 

While I understand things like no plastic utensils, etc., balloons and other tacky things, why are some people opposed to cake, music, song requests, etc. etc. Some of the issues people have on here seem a little ridiculous. Why get married at all? I get that some people don’t like veils, don’t look good in them, etc. That’s fine, whatever suits you and your ideal wedding. But I think there has to be some tradition. I have spent most of my life being “Canadian”, although my family is dutch and scottish, we don’t particularly do anything that suggests our background. As I begin my own family, I hope to start traditions, bring culture back into my family. Without some classic wedding traditions, it isn’t really a wedding. Although I don’t associate with my dad, my step father is giving me away. I will be having a special dance with my brother because we have gone through a lot together. I think the father/daughter and mother/son dances are sweet. I don’t see the problem with song requests if it’s before hand and you can go through it. Although I don’t like dancing, I still would like to offer it to guests. Sitting down for hours just chatting or doing nothing doesn’t sound very fun. 

 

Post # 221
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Wannabee

Some of the things I don’t want at my wedding are: 

– Garter/Bouquet toss 

– Smashing cake in the face 

– Receiving line 

– Money Dance 

– “To obey” vow 

– Unity candle/Sand 

– Balloons 

– Head table 

– Couples entrance

Some things I will have: 

– Tying the knot ceremony (I think nautical things, this includes some of that, I like the symbolisim of it. The more pressure you put on it, the stronger the knot gets. I think during tough times you need something to look back on. I personally like this idea, rather than the unity candle thing) 

– Real flowers (I would like to donate the flowers to a retirement/nursing home after to brighten their day. I enjoy real flowers, don’t think they are a waste) 

– Giving away the bouquet (Instead of tossing a bouquet, I would like to give the bouquet to my soon to be mil because they have been together for 25 plus years and I think they are a good role model for their children. I think giving the bouquet to honorable relationships, rather than single ladies is better) 

– Sweet heart table (I think it is nice to have a chance to have some privacy, a nice conversation with your new spouse. I don’t think looking at a big head table, it’s awkward, plus the significant other of the bridal party is left out, sitting alone, it’s weird. I think you should be with your family, friends or spouse) 

-Sixpence (Rather than a penny, I would like to go traditional scottish and have a sixpence in my shoe)  

-Wedding Website ( Instead of telling people over and over again about how we met, my family, etc. Or sending out rsvp, directions, hotel accomodations, etc. etc. I will be having a wedding website. On the site, guests can read up on how we met, both families, the bridal party, there will be directions, hotel accomodations, a song request page (that I will go through before submitting to a dj or whatever we have), an rsvp page. This way, everyone will have to check out the website and they can get a feel for the couple and the wedding before the big day to reduce the amount of repetition I have to deal with on the day of) 

Questions 

While I understand things like no plastic utensils, etc., balloons and other tacky things, why are some people opposed to cake, music, song requests, etc. etc. Some of the issues people have on here seem a little ridiculous. Why get married at all? I get that some people don’t like veils, don’t look good in them, etc. That’s fine, whatever suits you and your ideal wedding. But I think there has to be some tradition. I have spent most of my life being “Canadian”, although my family is dutch and scottish, we don’t particularly do anything that suggests our background. As I begin my own family, I hope to start traditions, bring culture back into my family. Without some classic wedding traditions, it isn’t really a wedding. Although I don’t associate with my dad, my step father is giving me away. I will be having a special dance with my brother because we have gone through a lot together. I think the father/daughter and mother/son dances are sweet. I don’t see the problem with song requests if it’s before hand and you can go through it. Although I don’t like dancing, I still would like to offer it to guests. Sitting down for hours just chatting or doing nothing doesn’t sound very fun. 

 

Post # 222
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@klangdon1993:  I love the idea of taking your wedding flowers to a retirement home afterwards. I need to look into doing this.

Post # 223
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@IzzyBear:  OMG I almost completely agree with you on everything and for the same reasons!! 

No bridal/wedding march bc yes, sounds like a funeral

No line dances-hate them

No fake flowers

No receiving line

No to a church ceremony–too traditional 

No White-only champagne and ivorys(plus fall colors)

No karaoke 

No open bar–some champagne & wine will be offered

No group dances–hokey pokey etc

im sure there’s more, but that just to name a few

Post # 224
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

* and I don’t know what the money dance is but I’m sure we are not having it, and were only having minimal country songs bc I do not like country 

Post # 225
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

hmm i agree with so many of these! especially:

-Sand ceremony

-father daughter dance

Post # 226
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I had never heard of this dollar dance before! That sounds awful.
I refuse to have lilies at my wedding. They used to be my favorite flower before I attended a wedding with lily centerpieces. A friend insisted I take one home and I put it on my table not knowing. My cat jumped on the table while I was sleeping and nibbled at a lily. When he became sick I took him to the vet, but it was too late. He died from kidney failure from lily poisoning. Now I can’t stand to see lilies especially associated with weddings because it reminds of my poor cat dying. Neither my friend or I knew how poisonous lilies were to cats. If anyone does have lily centerpieces I hope you warn any friends with cats not to take them home.

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