(Closed) One thing you REFUSED to have at your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 62
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

No frills in the ceremony. No candles, no roses, no sand thing… Just legal. Then on to the party.  

Post # 63
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Oh yes and NO cake smashing whatsoever. Or garter tossing. 

And absolutely no mason jars. Or burlap. 

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No songs with dances.  No cake smashing.  No tossing of anything I paid for, except drinks – toss ’em back.  No pictures of anyone jumping.  No one picking up anyone else for a picture. 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No dollar dance….or whatever you call it…. I was pretty laid-back about everything else.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s common in my culture to have a live singer singing traditional songs and/or karaoke during the reception. No way for me!

Post # 67
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

no parent dances or “first dance”. we aren’t big on clinging to each other for 3 minutes while others watch.

no head tables.

no favours! (my mom is still trying to convince me on this one :))

 

Post # 68
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Helper bee

No Cake! Fiance and want pies from a local place that we love and everyone is freaking out! Who knew a baked good could be so important to the success of a marriage?! 

Also there will be no mention of god or religion in our ceremony. It just would make us too uncomfortable and it would feel fake to us. 

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No bible readings, No vowing to “obey” of any sort, no tossing of anything, no unity candle, sand ceremony (I find them to be so lame!) and NO NAME CHANGE

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Hyperventilate:  I personally like that inside brought outside look.  I love the furniture that is set up outside, and I even saw rugs outside that I loved.  Plus you cant actually eat anything with a plastic fork unless youre at a picnic. 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Cady:  +1

Post # 72
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

For me it was, “absolutely no-one but you and I will be doing any of the planning, period, full stop.”

One thing that I’ve seen over and over is that people get started planning their weddings, and then family / friends / random sidewalk passers-by get involved in the planning and things get totally out of hand.

My lovely wife and I decided what we wanted to do (Disney) and talked to the Disney people, got ourselves a wedding coordinator – who rocked the box, by the way, and was even able to find us replacement transportation within 15 minutes when the limo broke down on the day of – and THEN told everyone we wanted to invite that we were having a destination wedding, we wanted them to come but would totally understand if they couldn’t, and that the planning was already done.

They still tried to screw things up; we had people changing travel and accommodation plans up until two weeks before we got on the plane, and they showed up at the event with an extra person for whom there were no dinner reservations and such.

We made it work anyway.

But we didn’t let anyone else get their camel’s nose under the tent.

Whatever theme, venue, whatever you want is fine. It is your event.

But seriously, hire a planner, work with them, and make it YOUR event. There’s not a committee getting married; there’s you. That means you and your SO are the only two whose opinions count. It’s supposed to be your event, and reflect your personalities, not every third person you pass in the mall.

So, yeah, “external advice” would be my call, lol.

Post # 73
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well I dont think its been said but NO FAKE FLOWERS!!!! I hate them id rather do less expensive flowers or 1 stem on a damn table than fake flowers yuk reminds me of old antique grandmas.

Post # 74
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Honey bee

I refused to do the anniversary dance.  I’ve always felt it unintentionally dishonored widows and widowers and I did not want anyone feeling sad/left out at my wedding.

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

the one thing I didn’t want at my wedding came anyway – one guest I really didn’t like at all.

Post # 76
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Fantastagirl:  We’re doing pie as well! I’ve gotten some interesting looks when I tell people but most of our guests think it’s really cool. We’ve ask 12 friends/family to bring a couple of homemade pies in lieu of cake and they all seemed really honored. 

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