Post # 1
So I just had to share………….
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about different things.
He’s having a difficult time w/ providing health insurance for his family, and the cost to him is HUGE! Plus he has child support…he works his fingers to the bone, and really only takes home pennies!!
Well, if you have read previous posts by me, we have an engagement ring picked out, and he put it in the safe, to give to me at the appropriate time, and wanted to make it a special day.
So during our discussion last night he went on to say that he wants us to start planning our wedding and such, so that all the rediculousness of the health insurance costs and such were done and over with. (I work for a municipality, so my family health ins will be so much less, once married) – and he said to me “I should just go get your ring, and we can start planning”
I told him, “NO”, I do not want it to be given to me in that way. And said I will not take it under those conditions. He then added, I’ll give it to you a week from Thursday, (3/15) and say something really special. We have a one hour carriage ride planned for that day. So I am excited. Should I be happy that he’s proposing to me this way? Or should I tell him to plan a date that I have no idea about?
Post # 3
Be happy!!! You’re “sealing the deal” with the man you love enough to spend your life with. And even though you know when, you don’t know what he will say or how it will feel. Banish all expectation and count down your single days by getting your nails done (if you’re into that kind of thing) and preparing yourself for the next step in your relationship. I’m so happy for you. <3
Post # 4
Have fun and say YES! This is the man you love, and he loves you. The evening sounds like a lot of fun, and it will be a special moment for you both, whether you know it’s coming or not 🙂 Congrats!!!
Post # 5
Just get engaged already! I don’t think the surprise is important. Plus, how often do you go for carriage rides, really. Let his words be the surprise. 🙂
Post # 6
Well it was a surprise when he said a week from Thursday right? There’s your surprise, now it gives you time to get your fingers all prettied up for ring pics and gives you time to plan everything for that time… As long as the proposal happens, we will all have different versions of how it will happen!
Post # 7
I answered the question before I read your story. Generally, I would want the whole thing to be a surprise, but in your circumstance I think the way your doing it is just fine. Enjoy your carriage ride!
Post # 8
I’m sorry, I answered first and thought you were asking if I knew he was proposing (I didn’t know the day/time/place, but I did know it would be happening soon).
I think you should enjoy your proposal, as long as you are happy, it doesn’t matter what you knew before and what you didn’t know! Besides, now that you know, you can make sure you have a manicure pre-proposal (I took my nail polish off like, a half hour before he proposed thinking I’d paint my nails after we took a walk!) and that you have your camera to capture pictures of the day!