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(Closed) One week to go and its all going wrong!

posted 5 years ago in Beehive

Post # 1

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Helper bee

Steph77
5 years ago

Wedding: March 2015

I get married on the 21st and up until about a week ago everything was running pretty much to plan. Now despite our best laid plans everything is going wrong and I am trying desperately hard not to have a melt down but struggling to keep it together. This week we’ve had the following;

1) Bridesmaids dresses arrived and didn’t fit. They really looked awful, unwearable. My Maid/Matron of Honor has saved the day by persuading a local alterations firm to fix them at short notice. We won’t see them until Tuesday, 4 days before the wedding.

2) Our vintage campervan which is both our wedding and honeymoon vehicle isn’t running. My fiance is battling to fix the engine and get it road legal but its going to be a close run thing, we won’t know until Wednesday, 3 days before the wedding.

3) My company needs me to go on an international business trip Monday / Tuesday next week. This not only wipes out Monday and Tuesday evenings for wedding prep it takes me out of the country the week of the wedding which, as I am a complete stress head anyway, I’m finding incredibly stressful

4) My dress, having looked beautiful at final fitting, arrived and didn’t fit. The minor alteration we discussed to be made post fitting has gone wrong and I literally cant do the dress up. I called the designer yesterday evening pretty much in tears, shes had a courier collect it today and I now have to rush back for a final, final fitting on Sunday … its a 3.5 hour train ride to get to her so that wipes ot the day.

I’m trying to stay calm but its really starting to get to me now 🙁 I just wanted the last week to be calm and organised …. like that was ever going to happen!

This topic was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by Steph77.

Post # 2

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Bumble bee

caligirl0011
5 years ago

Wedding: July 2016

Steph77: ohhh, I’m so sorry!

Okay, first things first: I know you want your day to be perfect, but weddings NEVER are! What matters at the end of the day is that you and your man are married. The rest of the stuff is just a bonus. please try to keep that train of thought and it should help calm you down.

Also, these things suck but it sounds like everything wil be fine. It sounds like although there are some fitting issues and a possible change in honeymoon plans, the wedding should still be beautiful and fun. Nobody will remember if the dresses didn’t look perfect Or you didn’t have a getaway vehicle.

Now – is there anyway to get out of the work trip? I would try to get out of it, and if I can’t, then try to do something relaxing in the evenings while away. Go to the spa, gym, yoga, hot tub. Whatever the hotel has or is nearby. Stress is not healthy and will not help you look your best on your day.

The 3.5 hour train ride is insane. This would stress me out to no ends! Is there any way you can rent or borrow a car? Get someone to go with you and drive you? Time is of the essence here and you don’t want to risk missing trains, etc. It’s only going to add to the stress.

same goes for the getaway car – come up with a backup plan. Borrow or rent something. I bet you already have a cute just married sign, so doesn’t matter what the car is, the getaway will be adorable.

also, make a backup plan for the honeymoon. Again, find another vehicle. or, just take off to an all inclusive in Mexico or something for a week. It’s affordable. (Especially with gas prices!)

Trust that the bm’s dresses will fit. Just wipe this from your mind. This is your day, and I know you want them to look their best, but nobody will remember if the dresses didn’t hug their curves or were a little off. I’m sure the seamstresses understand your predicament, so just trust them and let it be.

I’m sure that your dress is going to fit you on the big day! It’s not impossible to take the inseams out up to 1.5″ usually.

This will be fixed! Please try to stay calm!

Also, prepare yourself for other things to go wrong. Maybe the wrong colour flowers, makeup artist doesn’t show, Whatever. Plan for the worst and enjoy the day. All that people will remember is that they had fun and you looked beautiful. and again, all that matters at the end of the day is that you and your Fiance are married!

congrata and good luck!

Post # 3

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Helper bee

Steph77
5 years ago

Wedding: March 2015

caligirl0011: Thanks for taking the time to respond! There is no way out of the work trip, its a nightmare I posted a thread about. I’m stuck with it and just trying not to worry to much.

To get to my my dressmaker by car takes just as long as by train unfortunately, I’ve done train journey twice now, its actualy quite a nice journey its just so damn long!

There are other vehicles we can use for both the wedding and honeymoon, its just that our theme was built to a great extent around our van and we were both so looking forward to having it as part of the day, weird to be sentimental about a van but its quite special to us…

Post # 4

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Bumble bee

caligirl0011
5 years ago

Wedding: July 2016

Steph77: I totally get that! I hope you’ll be able to calm down and enjoy these last few days before the wedding though! I hope your Fiance can fix it in time and everything else works out! let us know how it goes afterward!

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Busy bee

papillon20
5 years ago

Wedding: December 1969

I’m sorry that all these things are happening. Of course that would be stressful! But just try to focus on the fact that at the end of it all, you WILL be married and that will make you happy. Remember that’s the reason for it all – the wedding hoopla is just icing on the cake. Once you still end up married, it’s a success.

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