(Closed) One year reception after elopment

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d think about this very carefully.  There’s no guarantee that the family drama won’t mess everything up again.

I wouldn’t call it a reception.  It would be more like a party.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Call it a vow renewal.  Otherwise, it’s just like a wedding!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would probably bill this as an anniversary party rather than a wedding reception. It would feel a little anti-climactic to me to walk down the aisle a year later.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a coworker that went away and eloped and later had a full out reception and during the “cocktail hour” showed the video of their ceremony.  Because it’s a year later I probably would call it an anniversary party.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Or just call it an anniversary party!

 

If you think you’re having this anniversary party to appease the upset relatives, I would think again.  Only do it if you really want to.  Otherwise, people will get over their hurt!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Anniversary party unless you do vows and then it’s a vow renewal.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Please join us for our 1 year anniversary & vow renewal … I think its a great idea so that you can have your memories! 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My Fiance and I are eloping soon, and we plan to have a one year anniversary/vow renewal when the time rolls around. We don’t have the finanacial stability right now to have a big family wedding, but we still want the “wedding” experience. The elopement will be very small and casual, but I have a wedding dress and I’m going to wear that thing someday, so help me God! I think you should do whatever you and your husband want to do, but I probably would be concerned about family drama starting up again. It’s just something you have to think about. Either way, good luck, and remember it’s about you two.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think that would be a nice idea, but really think about how you want to go about it. I don’t think having a traditional reception would be fitting for your situation. The toast, the cutting of the cake, the dances…I feel those should be reserved for traditional receptions. having a party with dancing and dinner and such seems like a fine comromise.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Anniversary party is the way I would go.  Personally (any this is just my opinion!) I think vow renewals are a bit silly especailly after only 1 years.  When you say your vows you promise til death do you part.. there is no need to renew that. I can maybe see at 10, 20 years but at 1 year it is just not necessary, and if someone needs to renew them at yearly intervals that they may need to reconsider getting married.

 

That being said, I vote anniversary party!  Just keep in mind though, it isn’t a wedding at this point so some things may come off as a bit weird to some guests.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow that must have been a horrible time for you guys having to bail on everyone like that at the last minute. Im guessing there’s still a few ppl feeling hurt about it so you’ll definitely have to be very delicate about how you approach this. I, personally would avoid making it weddinsy at all (no bridal table, no white dress, no first dance, no tiered cake cutting etc) and definitely play the party angle. An anniversary party sounds great and I’d be all up for that but if I were invited to a reception after being shunted, I’d be a bit P…ed Off. My advice is you should avoid calling it a reception as a ‘later date wedding reception’ should probably have been mentioned when the elopement notices went out. It would still be fantastic to get everyone together, have a laugh, celebrate married life and make use of the reception payment though.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband and I got married on the beach with just the two of us. On our one year anniversary we are having a “celebration of love” for our family and friends. WE are not going to re-do our vows but reflect on our love and the past year. I’m still wearing a wedding dress, cake, dj all of it. We’ve asked everyone to wear our wedding colors instead of having a bridal party. I say do whatver will make you guys happy. I’ve had friends have a courthouse wedding with the promise of a party/reception later and they never did it, I was pretty bummed because I never really got to celebrate my happiness for them. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sadielady:  I just thought I’d post again here and just point out that we did an at-home reception 2 weeks after eloping and got to do the cake cutting, first dance etc. I do not in any way have an issue with receptions being a few months, or a year or a few weeks after the wedding. I think, at the end of the day, you should do what you want, but in this particular situation it is really important to consider the feelings of the guests, their possible reaction, and not just think about what you guys missed out on for deciding to elope at the last minute.

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