One year since my fiance left me

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

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@ClearIndividual:  

I’m trying not to pile on too much, as you are hurting, but you are also hurting others.

As a divorce lawyer I am frequently treated as a therapist/psychologist. I have no training for that and redirect, but I am exposed on the daily to people’s fears about starting a new life without their partner, financial stressors, managing relationships, co-parenting. I do deal with abusive spouses, restraining orders, and violence. I don’t just “see the legal side”.

I again reiterate that most people want to move on and take steps to do so – they refinance homes, get therapy, etc. Stalking, breaking belongings, harassing texts etc. is abusive and often illegal. Lots of people feel hurt – they are also fully aware that the way to deal with it is not by stalking their ex. I think if you are comforting yourself that you are “better than” most people in the face of a long term breakup you are reading the wrong message boards.

Post # 47
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Honey bee

Here’s my blunt take. You are toxic AF and seek out broken partners. You blame everybody except yourself for your lot in life. You didn’t like your former therapist because she called you out on your bullshit. But you actually feed off all this drama. You are an emotional vampire.

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee

^ Damn. LOL.

I agree though. Someone had to say it. OP your posts are getting weirder and weirder and I’m getting the sense you’re enjoying all this. Also your title literally says fiancé left “a year” a ago, not six months so don’t try and change the story. 

Also for goodness sake please let your current girlfriend go. She deserves better and to not be a part of this toxic mess. 

Post # 49
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2021

Dear friend. I cammot understand the depth of your feeling as a man. Im a girl. Its different for me. I separated from my husband half a year ago. The first months were hard. After we lived together for 9 years. Can you imagine how hard it was for me to move, how much time we spent together, how much stuff we accumulated… Remember that everything takes time. A year, two years. maybe more. But you have to go into some other realm. A psychologist helps me a lot. Only communication with a psychologist helps me to understand myself,

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